When only one of you wants to separate

[swizzlestar]

How do you deal with it??

I've had enough of h's behaviour. He keeps signing up to online chat & hook up type sites. When I find out he always denies. This has happened 6 times over our 11 years together, but that's just the ones I know about!

I've had enough now and want separate, but he doesn't..... We're at an unhappy stalemate and I can't see any way forward.

[VioletBam]

Well there's no stalemate....you begin divorce proceedings. Or leave him....if your situation is complicated by property, you need a solicitor.

[swizzlestar]

We rent at the moment so property isn't an issue, but the children are.

[VioletBam]

Well...who cares for them currently? How old are they? Do you both work?

[conscientioussuicidee]

If you need to do this, you do it anyway. He can't stop you.
Are you financially secure in your own right ?

Be ready for a difficult road but ultimately every day takes you closer to a better life.

I had the same thing (amongst other things too!) that pushed me to end my marriage. It was horrible.
That was nearly a year ago. It's hard but it's the right thing.