Hi, 4 weeks ago my dh announced he didn't love me anymore and he was going to leave. Took til yesterday to actually go and it's kind of a relief now he has. Last Sunday he gave me a spreadsheet with calculations of what he thought was fair financially - he will pay child support but nothing to me because I have a job. I work part time and term time only to be there for our two kids. DS has a mild disability (read plenty of appointments) and DD has been suffering with ED and mental health issues for 3 years and in and out of hospital for two. I reduced my hours further in November to fit in with extra demands her care called for. My employer has been incredibly tolerant and while dh has been to some appointments I would say that I have done 90% and majority of childcare for 16 years. He earns 5 x what I do now but when I got pregnant and gave up work we were pretty much equal. He's asking me not to sort finances through solicitors but to come back with my suggestion if I don't accept it but I have no idea what to say. He's also saying he won't divorce me now, I wanted him to start it because, well he started this! I had no idea and he said I was naive if I didn't. Don't want to "screw him for whatever he's got" but do want what I'm due for me and kids. What should I ask for?
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