Since last post of 'sad and scared' and having asked many questions including 'is there anything else we can do to save this marriage?' we have decided to go ahead and tell DCs tomorrow about intention to split and get a divorce. Can't believe it's come to this!
We've agreed he'll do most of the talking and say we* both want the divorce because he has met and wants to be with someone else, that he'll stay with us for a while until we've worked out what's best, and that they'll be part of that process so that they can say what they would like,
- to be communicated as a joint decision because the kids can't be left wandering, and blame will damage their wellbeing and for me this is about my dignity and self-respect, and protecting me and the kids from more hurt.
I have no idea how they'll react...
We'll start mediation next week any advice on; access & financial settlements? I'm the main earner, work full time have my own business, decent income, want to keep house, but I don't know what he'll ask for
It's all happening so quickly