lone parent (dad) needs some urgent help please.....(4 Posts)
I have never posted or asked for help/guidance before however, here we go.
I am a 'single' parent to a 12 year old from a former abusive relationship (I have brought her up since she was born, I am now married and have another child who is 2 with my wife, all of whom, I love with all my heart and 100% devoted to.
But my current wife is currently trying to kick me and my eldest daughter out of our home (I have refused to leave) or take our 2 year old away (she will not tell me where.
She is very controlling and I would go so far as to say its border line physiological abuse... although she did punch me again last night as well!, her family support her unconditionally and I do not have family (or any friends) as I moved away from where I lived in order to be with her (if I had not moved the relationship which was good then would not have lasted as she did not want to stay anywhere near where I grew up).
As a consequence I lost all my friends as she 'prevented' me from keeping in contact.
(I think i am feeling a bit sorry for myself....hence the waffle, sorry).
I am not sure what help or advice I want but I need some, so please help as I am wits end.
I want to be with her, I want to be a full time father to my children and a good husband.
I have tried calling Samaritans etc and I cant get out on my own to see a lawyer etc as she would not let me.
Mediation etc which is what i keep getting advised would not work as she would not go to it.
I have admitted to her its all my fault (and I am starting to believe it) but its still not good enough I have no idea what to do or where to turn.
Any help or guidance would be great..... please!
All the info you read on here about women in abusive relationships applies to men too. You need to leave. I can't advise you on how to get there but here's a male specific domestic abuse website:
Hi, thanks for your response. I didn't know where to post this as it's full of different threads. I don't think I need domestic violence yet but advice would be good. Getting out is easier said than done as she has a hold that I can't describe and I live her. I'm not perfect but I have never layer a finger on her and everything I do is for her and the kids...... and ultimately if I leave I am know and back foot ands I have money and her family is minted. What I would give to have a friend right now and ands pint lol
Not letting you see your friends, forcing you to move far away from family and friends and not letting you out on your own to see a lawyer all constitutes controlling behaviour. It's not your fault, she is manipulating you to make you think it is. She has hit you, that is domestic violence. I agree with Enb76, read up what you can on domestic violence perpetrated by men on women and relate it to your situation.
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