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About to separate - so many tricky logistics - any advice?(4 Posts)
On Monday I found out my hubby had been cheating. For me it's game over and I can't continue with the marriage. We have 2 young kids - baby and toddler.
Our house is currently being sold so I will need to get somewhere for myself and kids asap to rent. My hubby works away during the week but will be back at 'home' maybe 3 nights a week. He lodges (just a room) when he is away.
A few things I'm thinking about......I am happy for him to come and see the kids and he will sleep in spare room. I'm a little concerned about the amount of 'stuff' he will likely be keeping there as he doesn't currently have his own home.
Just looking for some advice really on anyone who was in a similar situation. I want to make everything as easy as possible for all involved. We are communicating well and I just want to 'get on with things" now so I can start to rebuild my life.
I've not had any experience myself, but if I were you I wouldn't let him keep anything in a spare room or stay at all if you can prevent it. I think you need to completely separate and not have any blurred lines.
You need your own space, and him staying or leaving stuff at yours will make this difficult. Given the early stage of your separation whilst this may stay an amicable breakup, when you get further down the lines of splitting up finances etc, things may not be as pleasant and if you have that clear divide in your home, at least that is one less thing to worry about.
Need to talk to him about it all and set realistic deadlines for things to happen
Snap! Just found out over the weekend aswell! Sheer devastation.
Me and baby are staying put and he is leaving I gave him enough time to sort himself out thinking we could be amicable in the mean time (obviously still fully in love with him) but every night when we are sat on the sofa I know he is sat there texting her and I am holding back the tears. So unhealthy so he needs to go now because even though you think it can't get any worse it can and as you uncover the details of the betrayal you realise a person capable of this level of deception can not be in your life.
Get him out, pick yourself up, then work out the details of seeing the kids and long term relationship once the dust has settled.
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