Hello all, I hope you don't mind me asking but I'd love some opinions...
My ex and I agreed we were over Feb 2014.
He earns (last I knew) more than £150k. I earn £17k.
Now, after 28 months, we still have no financial agreement. There have been two agreed to before (both his idea of what he would offerr, and me capitulating). However he has never paid me a penny of spousal support. He has paid the minimum of child support as worked out by the online calculator.
Trying to get a settlement (I want some closure!) I had my solicitor write a letter making a proposal for a settlement. I expected it to be a sort of opening bid.
Two months afterwards, I have received a letter from him offering: no money, ever, under any circumstances, except 50% pensions split.
Now, I do not have a bottomless purse, nor a thirst for vengeance. I totally understand that I will basically have to either accept, or stay married. (I'm being flippant. I'm not staying married!)
My questions are: am I right that at some point in the process, the court is going to write and tell me I'm a fool? Someone told me something like that... What's that like, what should I expect?
Secondly: I have kids, aged 17 & 21. One day I'm going to drop dead and they're going to find a big folder of papers basically detailing how selfish etc their dad is. How do I protect them from this? Can I destroy all the papers at some point? Or I'd that not fair, do they need to know? Mum guilt :(
I would just love some reactions if anyone wants to share!
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GuiltyMumOf2 · 21/06/2016 19:42
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