Now separating and teenage dds blaming me

[starsandstripes2016]

that's pretty much it. Feel so sad. Understand future seemingly bleak but only way is up.

[ffon]

Oh starsandstripes Im sorry. My children were mostly younger when I separated. Not much help I'm afraid. Hopefully someone with useful advice will be along. Bumping for you.

[starsandstripes2016]

Thanks ffon. I understand that they are feeling a mix of emotions - some relief that a decision has been made. I want to take it one day at a time to give us all a chance to feel it is the right decision; I don't anyone to feel cornered. I wonder what are the experience of others when older teenagers take sides.

[ffon]

[Hubnut]

When I was a teenager I blamed both parents for splitting, even though it was my dad who cheated. I was awful. I think the best thing to do is be patient and let them work through their anger. They are adjusting to a big change in their lives. You'll all come out the other end. I get on really well with both parents now and am ashamed of how selfish I was.