Advice needed! I'm entering divorce with soon to be ex-husband. After spending my early years working exceptionally hard, buying a home and living a very modest life, I was mortgage free by age 35. Met husband 8 years ago, after a wirlwind romance, we married a year later. Until a few years ago, he didn't work, but studied to enter a career he's been dreaming of for years, I supported him throughout and I have no regrets for that.
Living mortgage free meant that throughout married life, once he was working, we both contributed to bills and shopping.
Unfortunately the joy of marriage was short lived and our marriage became toxic. Just 6 years later, after enduring years of arguments and eventual hatred, we separated last year and he moved in with a friend.
We have spoken on the phone only a handful of times, and agreed to divorce amicably. Going through a solicitor friend of his. I received the divorce petition yesterday and discovered that he is going for half of everything. The house, savings, assets, pension, the whole shabang! I'm mortified.
In brief, the house is worth around £300k, a 2 bed terrace on the outskirts of London (I paid £85k for it many years ago), I have been saving ever since I paid off the mortgage to upgrade to a bigger house when kiddo's came along (which they never did) so I have £160k savings, and earn £80k per year for a job which means 16 - 18 hour days, something no know I'll need to stop if I ever have children (which I want sooner rather than later).
He has a very successful career now and earns around £75k per year, but I have no idea how much he has in savings etc as I didn't ever feel he needed to ask.
There are no children involved, no DV or anything similar.
I think I need to break the agreement of going with his favoured solicitor and appoint someone to fight my case. But I fear it will anger him and make everything worse.
But lost as the where to start and what to do, and mortified that it has come to this. Any advice, suggestions or recommendations of divorce solicitors welcome. Thanks.
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nattie0nattie · 14/06/2016 15:32
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