My sister broke up with her long term partner last year after he was (repeatedly) unfaithful and he now lives with his new girlfriend. My sister and him have a 5yr old child together who lives with my sister.
My sister has had to give up her job as she doesn't have family support nearby (I live abroad) Her job involved a changing monthly schedule and working away for 3/4days at a time. It's not really transferable skills so she is looking to retrain in September.
Her ex-partner currently has contact with the child on alternate weekends (fri evening to sun evening) and one evening every week for a couple of hours.
He pays monthly maintenance to her which contributes to rent&bills; clothing; food and swimming lessons etc.
The problem has arisen around school holidays. The ex-partner does not believe he has a responsibility to childcare during the school holidays, apart from the arrangement already in place. He has agreed to 'maybe a long weekend' and possibly his parents would take the child for one day. Isn't this his responsibility to arrange for 50%childcare in the holidays? My sister would like to start work again but this will be difficult without his support during holidays.
Can anyone advise what the usual arrangement for contact would be particularly through holidays? He has suggested that any childcare costs should be bourne by her out of the money he gives her but this doesn't seem reasonable or fair?
Any advice appreciated or signposting to helpful websites.
Many thanks
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Contact arrangements between separated parents?
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Krazylady · 13/06/2016 12:38
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