Trying to cut a long story short...
I married my ex-partner in June 2015 in complete secret to help with a visa to move from the UK abroad. Unbelievably, in the October the same year, after only 2 weeks of living abroad (and 5 months of marriage) he told me he 'didn't see a long term future together.'
He also said he didn't marry me for love but for the visa because he wanted me to come with him. Even though I said at the time it was a big move (to get married) and I could completely understand why he'd want to go for it alone. However, he repeated that he didn't want to lose me or go without me and OF COURSE we'd get married.
Cue 6 months of heartbreak and a trip around the world (me) to try and come to terms with what had happened. I'm now back in the UK whilst he carries on living abroad. We are quickly approaching a year of 'marriage' but obviously haven't been together since the first week of Nov.
I don't want to get divorced but obviously see no other option. I want his family and friends to know what a true idiot he has been and understand WHY this break up has been so much harder for me to take. I thought that the marriage albeit in secret was a sign of his commitment, he says I'm mad for thinking this?! As he made it clear it was for a visa and not because he wanted to be with me forever.
The biggest thing I need advice with is do I tell my parents? It's killing me that I've kept it secret for so long and obviously I'd like to get married 'properly' one day to somebody and would have to tell them. Could I realistically keep it a secret or should I come clean?
Also is it my place to tell his family/friends? I guess not? I'm worried my mum will call his mother if I tell her.
Any advice/thoughts/opinions welcomed!!
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Married in secret, now heading for divorce
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Stormyrainbow · 18/05/2016 21:03
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