Have NC'd.
H and I moved to his home country a couple of years ago with our 3 DC. Our marriage wasn't up to it, that much is clear now. I have now moved back to the UK with the DC and am in the process of getting a child arrangements order so that H can't take them back there. There are a multitude of very good reasons why I don't want to return and DC don't want to either. Although the whole ordeal has undoubtedly had an effect on them.
The situation now is that I want to move back into our previous house - it is rented out - so I gave notice (verbally) to our tenants. They then contacted H who has revoked my notice. Turns out, although we are joint owners, it is only his name on the tenancy agreement. They are on a periodical agreement, the previous fixed term having come to an end in September last year. My solicitor says that I will obviously have difficulty serving notice formally if I am not on the tenancy agreement. I plan to commence divorce proceedings and then there will have to be financial settlement order blah blah and it will cost money I physically don't have. In the meantime, the DC and I have nowhere to live. I can't rent as I'm not working and haven't been since we moved abroad. He is refusing to pay any maintenance for the children or budge on "letting me" move back into MY house. He wants to make things as hellish as possible for me so that I come back to him, cap-in-hand, saying you're right, I'm useless, I can't survive without you. This absolutely must not happen. I have wanted to leave for so long and I will never get DC back another time.
I can't even get school places without having proof of address. It is very important to me that they go back into the class groups they left, I know it's not the end of the world if they had to go to other schools but I really can't be living with my Mum for much longer. It's not fair on her or the DC.
Any advice would be very welcome. I don't know where to turn.
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BrightBabyBlues · 31/03/2016 00:58
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