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Divorce and safeguarding issue(6 Posts)
Am wondering if I could get some help and advice about some interlinked issues
My husband and I have never really got on since we had an arranged marriage in 2001. We now have two children and I am planning on instructing a solicitor to start divorce proceedings next week.
On Friday I got a phone call from the headteacher at my DCs school saying she had a delicate matter to talk to me about re safeguarding.
A member of staff at the school saw my DC and their father at a bus stop near the school and she saw him pull our son to him by his coat and slap him hard twice across the face. Hard enough for his head to be jerked back. She has reported this to social services who will be getting in touch with me on Monday.
Basically, I need som advice. What happens now? With social services? How do I best protect my children who are 9 (DD) and 6 (DS)? My son is also autistic which adds to the situation. My husband has never really done much to look after them but is having to collect them from after school club three days a week now I have a new job on another town.
I also want to know what kind of difference this will make to my intending to petition for divorce and access arrangements. Does anyone know of a helpline I can ring?
He's denying it happened at all and my DD is also saying she didn't see anything. I'd be grateful for any help or advice
so sorry you're going through this.
I don't have any advice for you but didn't want to read and run
A good place to start could be Womens Aid - 0808 2000 247, or they are online too.
I would maybe start with advice from SS. They may have a view on whether unsupervised contact is appropriate. Sorry you're going through this.
Cafcas will want to write a report at some point OP and they'll take this into consideration. If you don't stop access/ report this to police or social workers suspicion will fall on you unnecessarily and this may taint later proceedings. Raise it now in writing with anyone who you think may later intervene. PM me if you like.
As it's already been reported by the school, should I report it again?
You need to do the right thing, and you also need to be seen to do the right thing. I think your best bet is to call social services and ask what the right thing is.
You don't want to be in a position where social services think you might have been facilitating abuse
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