Hi all
Just wondered if anyone has any advice as we haven't got a clue- no one in the family previously divorced and worried a relative is being taken for a ride.
So female relative, we will call her Jane, has been married to Bob for 22 years. No children. She is 60, he is 50. He is a relatively high earner, she works part time on a low wage- such reduced hours mainly due to physical and mental ill health.
Own a house outright together, thanks to a large financial gift from Janes parents (which can be proven).
Problems in their sex life from the start, if this is relevant, but marriage consummated. She has a physical health issue which means their sex life became further problematic in later years.
Bob said he wanted a seperaration a year ago but didn't move out until the summer just gone, leaving her in their jointly owned house. He didn't leave a forwarding address but said he would be back in six months to "sort it all out". She's quite naive and I think thought he would return to the marriage. Six months on he didn't return but instead she received a petition for divorce citing irreconcilable differences.
Both Mormons. She converted and he born in. His family are now all out of the faith. Jane is much stricter than Bob. They went to Temple to inform the elders of the church of their seperaration and Bob apparently (according to one of the elders) said something about Jane that was "so shocking it changed how he [elder] saw the marriage". No idea what though, Jane was just told this after by the elder.
As mentioned above she's quite naive and I think believes whatever he tells her. This was a factor in the marriage. He's told her that she's liable for all divorce costs and that he will get half of everything. Is this the case?
He was emotionally abusive for at least the last ten years of the marriage. Almost certain he's never been physically or sexually abusive.
She's saying that she will refuse to give him a divorce on religious grounds. Fairly sure she can't do that, can she? And will that make her more likely to have to pay legal costs/lose more assets?
Thanks in advance for any advice. I am happy to answer any other questions.
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