My husband and soul mate (or so I thought) left out of the blue last March. We have two little people aged 7 and 5 at the time. We have mostly been grown up but both of us do not escape unscarred. I have spent some time this morning reading through boards and comments here. It is hugely comforting but also saddens me just how many of us are impacted.
I was touched by many posts about moving on and the need to do so, in whatever way that means for us.
We do not "need" to do anything our pain, grief, anger and frustration are just as valid emotions as happiness and joy. We should be able to give ourselves permission to be with those feelings ...
What we can benefit from is separating out how we feel from how we act and behave... I feel totally ok with being depressed, withdrawn and not my usual self.. The last year has seen my whole world shift upside down, I have been managing my own grief while supporting the DC's with there's ..
Please ladies give yourself permission to feel s**t know and trust that this is the process. That time will do its job, there is light and joy and we will truly value it.
In the meantime ... Find the smallest patch of sunshine in each day.. Whatever that means for you!
I am soon to brave the next step of the journey in formalising with divorce and all that comes with it.. I intend to practice loving myself, being gentle with myself and trusting that will help not only me but those most important to me.
Sending love to you all X
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