My DH and I have been separated for a bit under a year. I think I am still in disbelief as to how quickly it all unravelled. He has just told me that he will be filing for divorce if I don't. I think he's really sick of me as I fought hard to make him not leave me and our DCs, but I did what I had to do to save my family. It seems like he just wants it all finished as soon as possible so that he 'can move forward'. My friends are insisting that I file so that I have more control over the process. I don't quite understand how I have more control other than the timing of when the decree absolute is filed, and even then that is not by much. Am I really able to simply delay filing the decree nisi as long as I want? I'm afraid to do that as it will make him quite upset and also, could he then not simply withhold paying me the interim child maintenance he has been paying? I would personally prefer to delay the divorce as long as possible (and also to then let the joint assets grow as much as possible as he makes several times more than I do). Although, I don't even understand when we are to calculate the point at which things get divided. I have been avoiding all this, I know. It seems like too much to have to accept. I just don't see how I can delay completing the divorce, and if I really can't then he might as well file for divorce. I don't need the added insult to injury....
Thank you in advance for all your advice.
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LegoMummy123 · 08/12/2015 05:24
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