We have one son, almost 6. I am desperately unhappy with the relationship with my partner. We can barely have a civil conversation or stay in the same room. My partner creates arguments over trivial things in front of DS. I'm worried what affect this might be having on DS. If it wasn't for DS we would have split up a long time ago. However my partner does not want us to split up as he does not want to be a part time dad. So it will have to be me that instigates a separation and I expect he will then tell DS that it me splitting the family up, turning DS against me.
Is it really best for us to stay together for DS's sake? I do not think I can live in an environment like this for much longer. Obviously it would be massively disruptive to DS for us to split up. He is so attached to us both, the house we live in, his school etc.
I could not afford to buy another house in the area we live on my sole income. I also could not afford the school fees, although my partner could. We have a cohabiting agreement and I will only get a proportion of the uplift in value since we bought the house just before DS was born. I will not get any benefits. I probably will get no money from my partner either if we split up because he is so tight anyway. So DS's home environment will change hugely, we will be living miles away from what DS considers to be home and then he will be living in two homes.
How do 6 year old children cope with this? Is it best to continue as we are for DS? Or is it best to separate? How do I minimise the pain to my son?
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topsecret123 · 06/12/2015 23:08
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