H and I separated in May, my decision.. I now realise he was EA and controlling
Sometimes we get on, sometimes we don't.
We have DD, who'll be 3 in January. At the moment, H has DD from 6pm on a Monday until 10am on a Wednesday. He lives an hour away, has had her for 2 weekends since we've been separated. He doesn't see her at any other time, only on those set days.
He has brought up Christmas and her birthday. He wants me to decide which of the days I'd like to have her and which day he can have her.
I want her both days. As selfish as that may make me. I have said he can see her anytime he likes on Christmas Day, but she stays with me. Last Christmas, it was just me & DD for the day because he put his name down to work. His putting work before his family played a part in our split.
DD's birthday falls on a Monday, so on 'his' day anyway. I've said I could have her as normal, she can go to nursery and see her friends on her birthday and he can have her for the afternoon/evening and the next day.
He says this is unreasonable and wants her to wake up at his house on one of the days.
I can understand how he feels, but I am adamant I want her with me for both days. I find it hard to stand up to him.
I hope all this makes sense, and I totally realise I am probably being unreasonable..
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CreepyCrawly · 05/11/2015 11:43
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