After being together for 15 yrs, things between us got bad and I felt we had drifted apart - I couldn't see how it could be fixed, he wouldn't listen and I had had enough.
I told him I didn't love him, we slept apart for nearly 6 mths then tensions in the house got too much and because he wouldn't move out I decided to and rented a house with my 2 kids.
He said he wanted the house sold and wanted to buy his own so the house went up for sale. 3 months on the house has nearly completed and I've met someone from work - we started off as friends and he helped me with being rational and talking about my situation. Ex found out about him but I said we were friends but I still got nasty texts but ignored them.
I enjoyed new fellas company and the kids liked him. I introduced him to mutual friends and they invited me and new fella on a holiday in Sept - I thought well its been 3 mths separated, house has nearly sold I told ex there would be a divorce after house sale so in my mind it was all over between us just paperwork to sort out.
Well friends told ex about going on holiday and all hell broke loose with ex over the weekend! I got text saying I was adulterous and I didn't care, never wanted to sort marriage out etc etc telling our daughter horrible things about new fella saying he would punch him and that I'm shagging an old c*!!
Completely shocked as ex had all that time to try and sort things out between us or even give a hint that he was bothered. I got so fed up with the texts I said do what you want I've had enough..
This morning I got an I'm sorry text and I don't deserve you I hope you will be happy....
Now I feel so bad and guilty - feel like I shouldn't go on holiday. How long should I have waited?? Should I tell new fella to leave it - should I cancel holiday..don't know what to do for the best :(
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Snoopdogg12 · 13/07/2015 19:39
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