Where can I get advice, just don't know!!

[binkymum1]

Advice needed..thanks
Married 6 years two dd's aged 10 and 7..

Things been bad for ages. H has ongoing depression and been in and out of work for the past 5 years as his industry is very precarious... Now has a new job. We do have a lot of stress financially and in debt. I'm not on the mortgage..

He's becoming very verbally aggressive and is drinking so much more that before.. He will swear at me in front of the children and tonight has called me the C word twice, for asking where my keys were (he'd fallen asleep again!!). Has been drunk and aggressive verbally in front of them.. The two of us are finding it almost impossible to talk to each other anymore.

I just don't know what to do?? I'm at my wits end and sick of crying. I'm still early 40's surely life isn't over!

I'm so so worried about the affect this will have on my daughters although eldest is aware of the current situation. They both love their dad and he is a good man, I just don't know that this is enough anymore..

Anyone been in a similar situation? Where can I get impartial free advice?

Thank you

[lifebeginsat42]

Hi Binky,

I think you need some time and space to evaluate how you feel and make some decisions. Your current situ sounds v similar to how mine was a few weeks ago and I too was worrying about the impact on my kids of their parents at war.

Is there anywhere he could go and stay temporarily. Friends, family etc? Even if it were just for a few weeks?

My H left on Monday and I def think it's for the best so I can focus on being a good Mum and working out what to do next.

As for advice, some solicitors offer a free half hour session but that isn't long. You can also try CAB. And there are lots of good divorce websites with plenty of info and advise on things such as your rights re the family home, child maintenance etc.

Before I (finally) asked my H to leave I'd spent about 3 weeks getting myself together. Working out financials, seeing a solicitor etc. Knowledge gives you strength to face the challenges ahead. I too had been thinking about this for years and I know how hard it is to make the decisions you're facing but you know I actually feel better for taking some action and gaining some control back.

Good luck!