I'm confused about maintenance and what to expect. My ex gives me spousal and child maintenance. He is a very high earner. We have 1 dd, at private school. He pays her school fees. She is hopefully going to uni in September. When this happens 2/3 of the child maintenance I receive for her will go directly to her.
I'm confused as to who then pays for what….if she wants something, and I can't afford it - am I expected to find a way to pay for it?
Eg if she wants a holiday with friends next summer my 1/3 left of maintenance won't cover that so should I then forego other things to be able to afford it, or should dad pay? Who is then her supporting parent?
My ex is very financially comfortable, and will be better off from not having to pay school fees, whereas I don't earn much money and simply can't afford it. Ex says that we are both her parents and thus should pay equally towards anything she needs.
(He isn't paying uni fees despite having always paid school fees, and I am upset that she will be starting her working life with a student loan to repay, especially as tuition fees are less than he currently pays for schooling).
I think I'm just a bit confused about what my maintenance is meant to cover and who pays for anything that isn't covered by it?
We have split costs for most things to date, but I have other friends where they receive maintenance and also ask ex for extras - car insurance, trips, extra clothes etc, and they get it.
What is reasonable and expected and what isn't?
Is this clear? I've read back and I'm confused! Sorry! It's late!
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