I asked how he felt about getting a divorce and the sound of wind through the tumbleweed has been the reply.

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We've been separated for over two years so surely not that much of a surprise.

I asked the question in an email as I didn't want to discuss it in front of the children at handover but I told him that I'd sent him an email.

Since then nothing. There have been a couple of child administrative emails that I've sent - also nothing.

I've finally sent an email saying (fairly politely) that if I hear nothing by a certain day I will contact mediation. I feel this is a little toothless.

What else can I do? I was hoping to divorce on the grounds of two years separation with consent, I'm wondering if this is a lack of consent. Any advice or suggestions would be deeply welcome.

The final detail is that he is a controlling narcissist. And I was stupid enough to marry the fucker

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If you've been separated for 2 years then issue the divorce papers, that's what I did after getting no response and delay tactics.

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Oh thanks you two - had given up on replies and stopped checking.

He did finally reply, with vaguely encouraging noises so I can't see him not consenting. Fts - this has been the thing that has given me pause, what if I applied for the divorce and he either failed to reply or disagreed?

Deckthehalls you are bang on right, he won't change. I'm sorry you're in the same spot. Luckily (ha!)we have no assets and never had shared accounts. May as well get cracking!