I need the wording to help as much as poss to prevent me having to interact with his dad or negotiate or discuss. History of domestic abuse. Very controlling man. Uses our son as a weapon, etc. Just this last Xmas (before the court order was finalised--it's still not finalised as he's disputing lots) he sent me over 16 emails over a 2 week period full of abuse just trying to sort out what week he'd have our son and what week I would. I want to avoid this. So I'd like the court order to be as specific as poss so he has as little chance as poss of attaking me. My barrister and his are drafting the court order. So far it says roughly this:
DS is to live with each parent in accordance to the following pattern:
Term Time
Mon and Tue with Dad
Wed and Thur with Mum
Alternate weekends
That works ok. BUT Holidays
"One week with each parent during Xmas hols, following which the term time pattern will recommence (unless one parents 7 day period of holiday care starts immediately upon the conclusion of the others) with DS moving to the care of the other parent after this 7 day hol."
is just too lose and meant I had to spend two weeks trying to negotiate what week we each had over Xmas. It says similar for Easter and summer. He will use this as an excuse to control me so I need it to be as sewn up as poss. Any suggestions? My barristers are finalising the wording this week but seem to offer no suggestions.
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Advice on wording court order re contact
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captainhotknife · 09/02/2015 14:04
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