Hi, just need some support. I've been with my partner for 12 years, never married, however bought house together and have a three year old. We've always had ups and downs and as of late (ie last two years or so) things just seem to be more down than up. I love DP however think I have fallen out in love with him, and I don't feel like I am attracted to him anymore. He is very laid back, and I feel like I have to be constantly asking him to do things, I know this is common with guys but I don't think I can do it anymore, especially since our daughter came along. I don't feel like I get the support that I should as I feel raising our daughter should be a partnership but lately its more my doing things on my own with her. He's not abusive or anything like that but can be increasingly moody or down about things and I'm fed up of trying to lift him up and be positive about things. We split once before about 6 years ago for a couple of months but we decided to give it another go.
Things came to a head on Wednesday as we have been out of sync for a while, I'm not great at confrontation and as usual he did most of the talking. We decided to call things a day, he moved to his mums house on Thursday and to be honest I feel quite relieved, not having to worry about him or what he is doing, or what mood he is in. I know its only been a couple of days but I feel ok about things thus far.
I know things will be difficult at times and my daughter is the most important person in the world to me so I realise that I have to be happy to ensure she is happy.
I worry that I will 'give in' to him because the difficulty in separating everything etc will be too tough. Generally I'm a strong person but I've gave in before however I realise this time I can't. The texts have started with him wanting to give things a go, he'll change etc, but again I've heard this all before.
Thanks for reading this far, happy to hear from people who've been in similar situations and have been strong enough to get through it!
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zackandmiri · 14/06/2014 14:44
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