hmmmmm, my first post This is a long one i am afraid and i am willing to take any advice (i won't be hurt so please be honest).
my situation.....my kids, a 17 yo and a 7yo. I am a divorced father, my ex wife has a mental health issue (and has had for all of the 17 years of my eldest sons life). It is not her fault, and i apportion no blame to her .
after my second son was born things got particularly bad, she was sectioned (section number 4) but support was reduced really quickly, things were very scary for all of us, the kids were not allowed out, lots of suspicion of the people around us, my family, her family (who ran for the hills), schools, neighbours etc. We as a couple began living seperately (in the same house) about 1 year after my second son was born. It then got to the point where she would snatch the phone from my son if he was talking to my mum, would stand in front of the car if we were going out etc. everything boiled over when she attacked me 3 years ago, i was punched, kicked all over, beaten over the head with my phone hard enough to draw blood. this was about 2 in the morning and my eldest son ended up having to pull her off me, this happened two more times in the night. She was sectioned again two days later and i started divorce proceedings (at that point i couldn't carry on). she was in hospital for 3 months and then came back into the house against my wishes (i was particularly worried about my eldest son at the time) but nobody would listen, we still live in the same house together nearly three years later, decree absolute was 18 months ago. She is much more well than she was but still she has difficulty allowing the kids to live their lives (if i don't take my 7yo to school he doesn't go, until i got him into breakfast club his attendance was 60% and he is a very anxious little lad)
she keeps saying she is looking for somewhere else to live but has recently said she is going to move to near her parents moving my sons school (I just think this would be so destructive), i know that if she did she would fairly quickly stop me from seeing him.
I had a solicitor but i can't afford to keep paying (thousands so far). Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. My self esteem is in the toilet and i am struggling, nothing is changing and i am so scared of losing my 7 yo.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.
Divorce/separation
a very convoluted divorce
3 replies
foobat · 12/03/2014 21:57
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.