Statement of arrangements for children - conditions

[mustbetimefortea]

Putting together wording for contact arrangements and need some advice. Stbxh and ILs keep insisting on taking ds on trips to theme parks etc. If I make a request to take him somewhere they will make plans to do it themselves. If I object they withold permission for me to visit family abroad.

I believe that once the court has approved the arrangements, as ds lives with me I am entitled to take him abroad for up to a month without their consent. Is this true?

I would like to put some wording in about fairness in dividing up treats but not sure how to word it. Any ideas?

[MaryPoppinsCarpetBag]

You'd need a residence order to do it without his permission, and only then if it didn't go over the terms of his contact order.

Without a residence order, you would need to have the permission of everyone with parental responsibility.

[MaryPoppinsCarpetBag]

If you wanted to take your child to visit family, you can request permission from the court and they would be very unlikely to say no.

[mustbetimefortea]

There is no dispute over me having residency. So if I put into the contact agreement section of the D8a that ds will be allowed to visit his family abroad for up to a fortnight during my holidays (which is all I would be doing) that would be acceptable to the court?