I have been with my partner for 4 years and we have a daughter of 2 ( just turned 2 ). I have not been sure about the relationship for a long time and fell pregnant very quickly in our relationship which wasn't entirely planned. I have bided my time till now to wait till our daughter was no longer a baby to leave him but we are really not working together and I know this is the time for me to leave.we argue all the time over everything ....
I'm not in love with him but care for him as the father of out child. That's it. We are very different people and come from completely different back grounds. I moved to his house when I fell pregnant, I didn't pay anything for the first 2 years ( have lived here for 3 years now ) as I was on my maternity pay from work and didn't earn much. For the last 4 months I have been paying a portion off the mortgage each month ( £250.00 ) and also since I went back to work part time a year ago I pay for most of the food and everything for the upkeep of my daughter. He pays all the bills but does earn 2 thirds more than me. I'm on £ 25.000 he is £60.000. My name is not on the mortgage but on the electric bill that's it. He knows I'm not happy but still seems to think we should have another baby ?! I would like to have had another child as I'm 38 but know that I'm 100% not in love at all and cannot even bear him to kiss me anymore.i know the time is right to go as have been thinking this way since I found out I was pregnant??
I want to leave before my little one gets too old as well and it becomes Much harder for her to adjust. My issues stopping me are the following ... I have moved to where his family friends are. An area where I'm not very happy and isn't where I want my dd to grow up as schools are not brilliant etc, however I fly as cabin crew for a living so sometimes am away for 5 days at a time ( fly part time ) and his mum has her while I'm away. I want to relocate closer to my family ( although have no one to look after my daughter in my family ) but not sure he would kick up a fuss at the distance and also think if I left him his mum would no longer look after my daughter while I fly.... There is so much to think about and with my job it all seems impossible any advice would be very much appreciated ... What might I be entitled to even though we are not married ? I have no idea what my next step should be ... Feel so gutted it has come to this but know it's the right thing however hard it may be on my own ....
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skye33 · 04/01/2014 22:40
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