My husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for 3. We have 2 beautiful children aged 3 and 10mnths.
I really can't stay with him any longer. I am very clearly not an equal partner in our relationship, my opinions, thoughts and most of all, feelings are completely irrelevant to him. He is selfish and cruel to me, and I feel so ground down that I no longer even like myself anymore. He tells me I am irritable, moody and irrational though in truth it is our marriage that is making me this way.
He isn't actually a bad person though, he is a fantastic father and on paper he seems like a great husband, just not to me anymore. I want our children to live in a happy home and not have to put up with the screaming matches or icy silences that are commonplace in our home. Communication has completely broken down and we can no longer even speak to each other. I'm so angry and upset with him, and myself for putting up with his treatment of me for so long and believing I could change him, and change myself to meet his expectaions.
No one is happy anymore and although we have had the "lets make it better" discussions numerous times, I've made the decision to leave him.
I have been to CAB and have a meeting with a housing option advisor to discuss what to do as the house is in his name, I work 8 hours a week and bring in about £250 per month. Everything is in his name and we do not recieve any benefits. I will have nothing when I leave and I'm scared for my children and how will I be able to provide for them.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and is willing to give some advice? What will happen when I leave? Will I get any financial help? I am in Scotland if this helps.
Thank you if you have stuck through this rambling post. Its a sad day when the only people you can turn to are strangers on the internet.
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I need to leave my Husband... no idea where to turn.
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gottahavefaith · 30/12/2013 14:56
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