Hi, I'm not entirely sure if I am looking for advice or just the need to get stuff off my chest and organise my head a bit!
DH and I parted company 12 months ago - I'm afraid he is a man with his head very firmly wedged up his arse, but not a bad man. We were together about 8 years and married 6 1/2. We have 2 DCs (3 and 6).
We went our seperate ways because we were just making each other miserable - there was no OW/OM we both just realised that we were not happy. After the initial angst, things settled and are reasonably amicable. He see's the DCs one night in the week and every other weekend. he does take them a bit more in the holidays.
Since we have split we have both moved on and found new partners. his DP lives with him and I get on ok with her (as do the DC's) and having her around makes life a bit easier. I have a DP, but due to him living away getting time together is tough sometimes.
The issue is this - DP spent christmas with us, and it was lovely, but I have found myself increasingly thinking about the ex :( . I am fairly certain that i dont still love him (in fact I was certain of that before the split, which was what made say 'enough is enough') but its doing my head in. I feel extremely sad that our marriage has ended, and I find myself looking at the ex and his DP and feeling jealous.
I am very happy with my DP, the DC's love him and him them, but with him not being around all the time i am finding it hard at times. I have a stressful job that i work FT at, and that leaves me feeling frazzeled at the best of times.
Like I said at the start - I dont know what i want from this. Could it be that I am starting to mourn the loss (so to speak) or do I really have feelings for my ex that I have tried to bury? I know this time of year can add to any unsettled feelings, and I am sure that its not helping in this situation, but all that is whirling round and round my head is driving me crazy :(
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My head is spinning.....help!!!!
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TheGingerBreadWoman · 30/12/2013 13:55
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