I've just read another thread there fees appear to costing 12K & 20K for DW & DH - and that is before even going to court - yikes!
I have just had a first meeting with my solicitor - he spent an hour explaining the process of divorce & finance. I tried to say that I had my assets all typed out and gave him a copy in the hope that we could discuss it with a view to taking his recommendations back to DH He wasn't interesed - obviously wanted to keep that for another meeting.
He then emailed me, saying simple "pls find PDF attached" - there was none. I emailed back and his secretary resent it - all there was was a child arrangement form! I realise this is important but DD is 16 (other DD is 19) and it is understood there will be no problems there in that she'll live with me - we didn't even touch on that at our meeting. I also asked twice for his fee list which he said he would send - he didn't.
Not a good start...
I don't know if anyone could advise, and I can't find anything similar on MN, but...
We have been married 20 yrs, own a house as tenants in common (I changed this from joint tenants yrs ago as he wouldn't make a will and he has previous DC) and although still in the same house have been separated for over 3 years.
I have all the "savings" in that I brought the capital from 2 trust funds into the marriage, inherited soon after we were first married, and am to inherit again when my Mum's estate is finalised. I have a small part time job (5K per yr) and have been a stay at home mum for most of our marriage. He has a good job and no savings other that his pension.
I have always kept my savings separate - in fact a lot of them are still in original form. However I paid off the mortgage on 2 houses we have lived in over the years from my inheritance. I can identify that I have paid for over 80% of the house we now live in as I have kept detailed accounts on a finance program on the computer
Even though the income from my savings has always been a lot lower than DH's, I have always paid way more than him on our family and house - he just thinks I should spend my capital rather than him putting his hand in his pocket. In fact I have always paid for absolutely everything for DC over the yrs - baby stuff, play school, swimming lessons etc. I didn't begrudge it then, but the question is, should he have access to my wealth now? I don't really want to touch his pension, but I do want to keep "what's mine"
I get the feeling this is going to cost **loads, so would be grateful for any insight from anyone and any tips
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bobs · 01/09/2013 15:16
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