Hi I've just joined mums net. At my wits end to be honest. I've been with my husband since I was 15. (29years). We have always had a love/hate relationship but since I had my 2children I realised how we shouldn't be together and he really doesn't support me at all. I have known for at least 10 years that the marriage was over but did the cowards thing and stayed because it was easier. It's horrible for me to tread on eggshells around him but I've now noticed my kids are realising you have to judge his moods. I must stress he is not violent in anyway but doesn't care how he speaks to me in front of the kids. I've asked him to move out and I will get a job to try and pay house bills myself. Our mortgage is finished. He won't move out unless I sell house. The house is worth 200,000. I'm really scared but must make this move at least for my kids sake. They have a distorted view of wat a family is. I do everything with them. He doesn't come with us or take them out. I don't know what to do or how to start. If I have 100,000 from house sale how can I claim any benefits so I won't be able to live and will have too stay in this really unhappy life!!! Sorry for being so heavy but would really appreciate any advise. Feel so alone. Thank you.
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