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Father not declaring his money

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Mummydotty Tue 16-Oct-12 20:38:16

I've just had a baby and the father wants nothing to do with her, in which I've beg him to see her but to no avail he just blanks me. I went to the csa for child support which came back he only had to pay £5 a wk. I ask y this is, they said he is earning under £100 a wk, which is a lie. I don't no what to do as I think this is unfair on my little girl. Any advice would b of great help!

mrsfuzzy Tue 16-Oct-12 22:48:38

if you believe the amount that he is earning to be incorrect [that he has told the csa], contact them again and explain why you believe the figure to be incorrect, if he is working they might be able to contact his employer, i had to push the csa after my ex blocked all attempts to get matainance, he then managed the ultimate trick and died of alcohol poisoning! sorry, not being funny but you need to push for this. he might change his mind about seeing your little girl so keep an open mind but some men run when the realsation dawns that they have responsibility. hope it all works out for you.

Collaborate Wed 17-Oct-12 00:01:52

They have to go off what income is declared to the revenue. If he is self employed that will be in his tax returns. If he hasn't filed any you can ask them to consider any other evidence you may have and work out from that what his income is.

If his lifestyle is inconsistent with his declared income you can apply for a variation. Look on the CSA website for details about how to do this.

mrsfuzzy Wed 17-Oct-12 07:55:51

not everyone is honest with the taxman is they are self employed, he might be flakey enough to pull the wool, but if that is the case your daughter will grow up knowing that mum did her best to raise her within her means even if the bio father, use that term loosely turned out to be a waste of space.

Collaborate Wed 17-Oct-12 09:37:31

Any child who grows up being told that their fqther is a waste of space will be damaged by that. If she finds out for herself, there is nothing you can do about that. But to actively undermine her sense of identity by saying that the person responsible for half of her genes is a waste of space is irresponsible.

mrsfuzzy Wed 17-Oct-12 10:13:37

collaberate, if you read my answer again you will see that i didn't actually say to tell the child that at all , this 'father' is a waste of space there's no point trying to dress it up an other way, he refuses to see his child, he fights mum over payments, that is NOT most peoples idea of a father, of course we don't know the full situation but he does not come across as a positive future role model, things hopefully will work out, but if they don't children work out their ideas about things, dad doesn't see me, send birthday cards etc. its good that mummydotty is trying to do her best. sorry mummy talking about you as if you aren't here!

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