I am not divorced yet and we still live in the same house. Proceeding have not started as I wanted to agree all finances, arrangements with the children and the grounds etc beforehand so we are going through a difficult process of discussion. DH has just organised for 2 of the DC's to have an activity every weekend which would take up 1/2 of one day. He did not consult me but did agree it with a group of other parents involved. I found out through the grapevine. I don't object to the activity as such but it is timed such that I could not do anything else on that day with the DC's because it takes up all morning and this goes on indefinitely (beyond when we have hopefully in my mind split up when we will be on alternative weekends) . The other parents involved have agreed and have no idea that our relationship is on the rocks & I don't want to get into talking to them about this because it is embarrassing that he did not discuss it with me in the first place - I also don't want them to get into the nastyness of the whole thing.
I am livid but not even sure if this is reasonable to feel that way because at the end of the day the activity is not such an issue it is that he has pushed me into agreeing with his plans without being consulted in an underhand way. I also have a deep suspicion that he is trying to get control - I organise the kids lives in the main and always have done. Is this him trying to make a case for future residence?
I don't know what to do especially as this is in the context of what is supposed to be an amicable divorce.
Your thoughts would be a great help
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probablyparanoid · 25/09/2012 22:27
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