Thanks for taking the time to read my post, I hope someone can give me some advice good or bad, I will try and make it brief but this is going to be hard. I have been married 7yrs together for 10yrs. I have spent the last 10years supporting and financing my husband and his 3 children from a previous marriage. (natural mother moved to other end of the country in the middle of the night without telling or taking her children 3yrs ago and has no contact, which is her choice) Due to his youngest son (14yrs & 5"10) hitting me 18mths ago, I moved out into an apartment around the corner with my husbands daughter (19yrs). I work 2 jobs whilst my husband works when the weather is fine or work is available (bricklayer). The past 18mths I have had to pay for 2 lots of rent/council tax, furnish the 2nd flat. He hasnt given me hardly anything towards the extra expense apart from £500 in 18mths. I support his daughter she is at a local university. He continues to go out with his friends 3 times a week playing golf/bowls/darts, he is a frequent visitor at the bookies, I dont have a clue how much is spent in there at a guess maybe £70-£100pwk? He comes to my flat 2/3 times a wk and stops the night twice a wk. My husband keeps assuring me that as soon as his son is 16 and goes into the army we can live together. I refuse to live with his son, his behavour is disgusting he has no respect for anyone, he dosnt even go to school as he got expelled for assaulting the teachers and trashing the school, and has major anger issues and smashes the furnishings including 3 brand new tv's. I am now beginning to disrespect my husband and have a feeling that I am just being used for financial reasons, I really don't think I can do another 2yrs even though I do love him and he tells me all the time he loves me! I tick of the calendar in my head waiting for 13/9/2014. Should I just end it now and stop the financial support & tell him to knock on my door in 2yrs time and see what happens??? sorry its a bit long.. thanks
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