My mum has vascular demantia. She is 86 with mobility issues on top. For the last 10 years she's lived in a MacCarthy Stone development, was popular and an active member of the management committee. In her earlier life she was a secondary school teacher. Last year she was diagnosed with VD and its been downhill since then.
Because of her mobility issues we have problems with getting to the toilet. She just cannot balance to get back onto her scooter and pull her trousers up. She has 4 care visits a day and they help her to the loo but she still goes between visits and ends up half dressed. She then goes down to the social area with a blanket thrown over her lap. The house manager has accused her of exposing herself. Mum often goes down to ask the manager for help with her TV etc and the manager states this is not part of her role. She accuses mum of becoming aggressive. Mum can be irritable and grumpy but I haven't seen her be aggressive with anyone. The house manager has mentioned several times that she wants mum removed. she believes mum should be in a home. Her carers feel she is still better off at home. They are the experts in my opinion. I do sympathise with her neighbours. I know she can be disruptive but most of all I think she doesn't fit with the MacCarthy Stone image of ageing gentlefolk!
The manager has now called a meeting with the area manager about starting a removal process. I am terrified mum will be forced out into a home. I recognise this may become necessary at some point anyway but am shocked at how she is being treated.
Any suggestions on how I should handle this meeting?
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jugglingeverything · 15/03/2016 13:59
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