Hello there
My DP and I think that we're currently doing things the hard way - I work part time, he works full time, we pay for childcare two days a week. Money's tight and time is rushed.
So, we're considering DP giving up work (and meagre salary) to stay at home full time, I work Tuesday to Saturday (on more generous salary) so I still get one day at home on the school run and school holidays and no childcare costs so we're better off financially and will have more time as a family...
But! We're both very scared about making such a big change. We have to commit to doing it for at least a couple of years as it won't be worth the trauma of losing a nanny we love and DP leaving a work place he really quite enjoys just to change our minds in a few months time.
What's it going to be like when DP doesn't earn his own money anymore? Is he going to feel terribly isolated and bored without work mates and the mums networks that I've built up but have a feeling won't automatically just transfer to him? I am already missing the kids even though we're only just thinking about it!
DP has done the sole child care thing before when our daughter was 1 - he worked a four day week then and had her all day Friday and Saturday and loved it. He has both kids on a Saturday when I work and is more frazzled with the two but it gets easier every day as they get older.
Is there any advice you can offer or anything you'd do differently if you were starting out as a SAHD again?
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emkay · 21/01/2010 19:59
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