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can I buy underwear for me for dp's birthday?

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onlywondering · 15/05/2008 10:05

dp the other day was talking about how I used to wear stockings etc pre-kids; I don't now; it used to be something I'd do if we were going out for the evening which we did a lot more as you can imagine. he was talking about how nice it was and how he wanted a bit more bedroom action

anyway his birthday is coming up and I wondered would it be really mean to buy myself some stockings and suspenders etc as part of his present? he is really difficult to buy for never wants anything or can think of anything for people to get him. Or would it seem a bit selfish? I think he would know it was for him.

I need a bloke's opinion!

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onlywondering · 15/05/2008 11:21

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NappiesGalore · 15/05/2008 11:24

not a bloke
but sounds like hes kind of asked for this, doesnt it.
and whats the alternative? some inane cd and a scarf/tie?
think hed rather the stockings etc.

Cappuccino · 15/05/2008 11:32

make sure you like it as well though

NappiesGalore · 15/05/2008 11:41

oh god yes. must make you feel good.

onlywondering · 15/05/2008 13:46

ok then you will have to help me or I will buy something really boring

www.figleaves.com/uk/product.asp?product_id=PM-8605&mci=&size=&colour=?=r542432-p542571-front like this, is this boring? I am so used to practical undies

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onlywondering · 15/05/2008 14:00

oh please help me

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Rhubarb · 15/05/2008 14:02

I think it depends on how you set the scene. I would cook him a wonderful meal, full of his favourite things (get the kids to bed first), then when he asks for dessert you get up and slowly unzip your dress to reveal a beautiful basque and stockings etc.

Men usually go for the really cheesy types of underwear, like lacy red and black.

Rhubarb · 15/05/2008 14:04

onlywondering - no, like this

VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/05/2008 14:04

no!

OrmIrian · 15/05/2008 14:07

It wouldn't be mean. I'm sure he'd love it.

What is mean is my DH buying me bloody underwear for every single occasion that comes up...when I don't give a toss about it! He even admits it's for him...so why buy it as a gift for me?

But i'd got for it if i were you.

Rhubarb · 15/05/2008 14:08

We are talking about a gift for him though, he'll appreciate that, trust me.

onlywondering · 15/05/2008 14:10

VVV do you mean no I shouldn't buy underwear or no I shouldn't buy that

Rhubarb don't be daft he would have a coronary if I wore that. I am 40 years old for pete's sake

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onlywondering · 15/05/2008 14:14

I am off to start a style thread I think that is a good idea

this is really difficult I need support (and vodka, probably)

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LoveMyGirls · 15/05/2008 14:14

can't go wrong with this imo

onlywondering · 15/05/2008 14:17

it has no suspenders

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bogie · 15/05/2008 14:18

www.lingerieexpress.co.uk/Two-Tone-Stretch-Lace--Shirred-Spandex-Mesh-Bustier-p-17730.html

onlywondering · 15/05/2008 14:22

oh dear god I will have to lie down. I am very very much out of my depth.

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LoveMyGirls · 15/05/2008 14:30

cant u jst put a suspender belt on underneath it? (i'm not a suspenders type, i find them irritating, did it once and swore never again despite dp buying me a jasper conran sus belt! I could just about cope with hold ups lol!

Toothyboy · 15/05/2008 14:31

Is he particularly into suspenders? You could wear hold-ups.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/05/2008 17:34

I wont bore you with the long complex answer, but, 'giving' sex/dressing up as a present goes against everything I believe in.

If you want to dress up - go for it. But dont do it as a present.

onlywondering · 15/05/2008 20:34

oh I see VVV I get what you are getting at

yes I am fully aware of the feminist dodginess of 'giving sex' as a present and that's not what I'm trying to do, believe me - my sex life is perfectly mutually respectful etc

I'm not the kind of woman to give a blow job for shoes or whatever that thread was about, or to go to a poledancing workshop

I see the present as kind of like buying theatre tickets - I will be going too, and having a very nice time, but it is still a lovely thing to think of getting for someone and does not suggest at all that you are being forced to sit through a play that you wouldn't otherwise have been bothered to see

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keepcalmandsauvignon · 15/05/2008 20:38

at theatre tickets! good metaphor!

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moondog · 15/05/2008 20:40

Ah, lighten up VVV!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/05/2008 21:48

I'm perfectly fluffy as a cloud MD, hence my not giving the long answer

I happen to think it's not a good idea. That dont make me a prissy, and to imply so is buying into misogyny for fear of seeming prudish. I just dont go for male orientated pre-ordained ideas of excitement is all.

Sure you dont want the long answer??????

justjules · 15/05/2008 21:52

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