I'm separated and have a special friend who is married to someone else. We've been having an affair for four or five years. It won't ever be more than that, she's firmly married, and I'm her bit of ruff, it's mutual. A part of the reason she'll stay married is that her fairly loaded husband manages the money and keeps her chronically semi-skint. More-fool her I hear you say, yes, probably. Anyway, I found out recently she has a credit card debt from about ten years ago which she keeps secret from her husband, and it is driving her mad with worry. She can't clear it, it gets bigger and bigger, he'd go ballistic, etc etc. It's around £3-4k I think, I'm not sure, but less than £5k. I'm OK financially, no debts, don't spend what I earn each year, (especially in lockdown of course,) and have a bit too much rainy day money sitting in an account earning 0.01% or something. £5k would be a small amount, in that I wouldn't miss it this year or in ten. Now, I'd like to help her get rid of this worry with a cheque for say £5k (not too sure I have a chequebook anymore, but hey), and want to be careful I don't spoil our relationship, or undermine her 'stuff' in any way. What are your thoughts about the wisdom of this and how to go about it?
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