Firstly I am not a dad but writing on his behalf as he slowly loses his marbles over the whereabouts of his 3 children.
Yes they are estranged, yes mum alienated him to the point of bi-monthly email, yes there was a court order put in place 2 years ago to relocate to the other side of the world. However, in the same court order it said that he had to be informed PRIOR to the move of the outbound flights, a forwarding address and the school information of the boys.
He was informed 2 days ago that the children had been removed from their respective schools with no reason or forwarding information. This was on the back of all of them having week long illnesses before the half-term (alarm bells anyone?) He has then been informed that 1 week ago an international removal company had been and cleared out the house.
Obviously he has been in touch with the local police, who's response was "we can assume they have gone to the country they have the court order for and therefore there is very little we can do."
Firstly, when was it the police's job to ASSUME anything? I am pretty sure they are in the business of hard facts and evidence no?
Secondly, we are talking about the disappearance of 3 minors to a currently unknown location with one of the people who has parental responsibility completely clueless to their whereabouts. Additionally the school reported an extreme decline in the middle child's behaviour so I'm pretty certain ASSUMING they are ok should be the last thing they are doing.
I am posting on this thread for 2 reasons: Firstly, has anyone been through anything similar and have any ideas what to do next?
Secondly, I am a first-time wife and mum to a husband who has children from a previous marriage. I have seen first hand the discrimination against "absent fathers" and it is appalling how they are never considered victims in the loss of their children. I truly believe most men who walk away from his children don't do it because they are selfish but because they are left no alternative options and very few people stop to hear that side of the story. I have read through pages and pages of threads about the mum in this situation and although I am desperate for ideas about what to do next, I really don't need the judgement or any other assumptions stopping us tracking down these kids and making sure they are ok.
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Should we just assume they're safe?
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Anniemousely · 26/02/2020 12:42
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