Vasectomy Good News Stories(28 Posts)
I went to see my GP about the snip last week. Needless to say, I was bricking it and expecting some bloke with massive hairy hands to get the rubber gloves out. Instead I got a sweet young lady doctor on her first vasectomy referral. My nerves and her first time - to anyone watching it must have been very funny.
Years ago DP and I have decided on sterilisation as the way forward once our family is complete - no more pill grief- hooray. The time is nigh and I felt it necessary to go and get proper advice while getting over DC3s arrival.(And find out waiting times)
It has to be me getting the snip as I'm not letting DP go through abdominal surgery after what she has been through .
I did some research and male contraception options really suck, pretty much only snip or condom. Pretty poor for the 21th century - if Vasalgel had been out I would have done it for the honeymoon. - That is a campaign for Mumsnetters.
I did like the idea of ancient Greeks sitting on hot rocks as a form of birth control - sounds like a good days fishing to me. However, it could do with some more research and would most likely make a good booster contraceptive method.
There is a lot of info on vasectomy and some of it seems very biased. The pro seems to focus on the surgery which is nominal, really, but seems to forget about the emotional side. And the stats are blurry.
And talking to the lads all you get are the horror stories, bleeding, swelling, pain or she left you to have more kids with another bloke ....
So how about the positive stories. Would those of you have had positive vasectomy stories please share them as you don't seem to hear about them. Some of the details would be interesting as well.
Following as dh is going for the snip on Wednesday .
Dp had it done 6 years ago, no probs at all. Go for it.
My DH had it 10 days ago.
It went absolutely fine. He completely rested after with a bag of peas on his nether regions.
He didn't do anything strenuous for a week.
He hasn't even needed a painkiller.
Depending on you reason for asking you may want to go on to a more male dominated site.
and dadnets is very slow
My DF had one about 30 odd years ago, back to riding a motorbike within a week and never thought about it since.
My DH had his done last year and now suffers with excruciating pain every time he ejaculates. Although seems to be controllable depending on time between occasions and position. Apparently nothing can be done, he just has to live with it. 1/10 I think is the official number of those that suffer with life long discomfort. I feel very guilty for asking him to have it done.
Sorry, not very helpful.
And what emotional side?
Hey Dementedpixie - how did it go?
Mrs J I, think there is an emotional side -:sadness of no more little warm babies coming into to love and cuddle, the OMG - sterile for life...fear of the surgery - understanding that might help getting more guys to do it.
Procedure didn't take long and I drove him home. Doesn't seem to be in too much pain. Says he is covered in iodine which he can't wash off until tomorrow. He has his close fitting pants on which feel weird compared to his usual boxers. Haven't seen the damage yet, think he's scared to look
Fear of the surgery, get that. But if there is any emotional turmoil about becoming sterile then it's probably not the right choice for that person. It wasn't even a question for my DH. We didn't want any more, ever. And the thought of an accident terrified us both. If he had any niggling doubts at all I wouldn't have let him have it done.
Well done to your DP. DementedPixie. Go whisper some naughty things in his ear- should cheer him up - hopefully it will me when my turn comes.
From my own perspective, even though we've planned to snip from early on in our relationship, I've gone through a range of emotions as we've actually started the process, something I'm not used as I'm generally on an even keel.
I've heard guys getting depressed, breaking down and crying. I know some really tough guys who refuse point blank to getting snipped, expecting DPs to get tied, and seem unable to articulate why. Chauvinism or something deeper?
DH was lucky and had a very straightforward experience - he even drove himself there and back. He was sore for a couple of weeks but once that faded he's had no other side effects, luckily. He said he's not bothering about losing his fertility as he's already proved it worked
dh needed it done twice for it to work. well, the second results arent back yet so heres hoping!
Dh was in a lot of pain the first time under local, there was a lot of swelling and bruising. The second was under a general and was a breeze.
Its different for everybody obviously, i wouldnt worry about.
I had it done 20 years ago. Local anaesthetic. In and out in an hour (from) memory. Pain for a day or two but no worse than a kick in the nuts. No problems since.
My only negative was that, after reading the pre-op leaflet, I opted for shaving myself. Apparently I should have known that they only needed a small patch shaved off but I didn't and shaved off the whole lot. The nurse gave me a right slagging off and even got her mate to come in for a look and giggle too - Glasgow at its best!
DH had it done about 8 years ago, very quick procedure, minimal bruising and discomfort. He took paracetamol for 2 days and was then fine. He has had no problems at all.
Dh was told to shave his testicles so he did shave the whole lot off. He never got slagged off and his op was in Glasgow yesterday
DP had one about 4 months ago. The surgery itself was very straightforward and he suffered a little discomfort but no pain. In terms of emotional impact - he is happy as doesn't want any more kids, and means sex is just purely for pleasure now.
Oh, he is also benefiting from the fact I no longer need to take a hormonal contraceptive so my mood is much better and libido much higher
Was snipped about 12 yrs ago. V straight forward and yes swlled up bollocks for a day or so but that was it.
Emotionally? If you've made a good decision and it looks like you have then just get on with it and grow a pair. As it were.
Had it done 3yrs ago. No pain, no swelling at all. Back to physical activity within the week. Only off-putting thing was the doctor and nurse discussing dinner whilst handling my old chap. 😨
In terms of the emotional side, I think it is important to validate those feelings instead of pretending that they do not exist. It is an emotive time to lose your fertility. For example fear of being ousted by a fertile bloke might be real even if the probability of this happening is low. When DH and I discussed what a vasectomy might mean for us he said it was not an option for him due to the sense that he would have of losing his masculinity. We are happy with our choice of contraception at the moment so it is a non-issue for us.
You might find a professional help or as PP said a more male-dominated site more helpful than Dadsnet for this. I have no personal experience to relate on this issue.
My husband had a vasectomy two years ago. Done by our GP and in and out in about 15-20 minutes! Very little discomfort and recovered quickly with two days off work. Text book.
Took the rest of the Wednesday off work, then drove to work for the last two days of the week. Next week, back cycling to work every day. It ached a tiny bit by the end of that next week, but never thereafter.
No issues at all.
Didn't really have much in the way of emotional issues about it. I was happy with the number of kids we had already. We did discuss doing sperm donation while the option was still open, but decided against it in the end.
I haven't noticed any change in function. If anything it's made things easier in that department coz there's no need to faff about.
Had mine done about four years ago. Very straightforward. Not painful during. Subsiding mild discomfort for a week after. No problems since.
Not heard about emotional responses before. As someone else said, if you feel prone to that, then be absolutely sure it's what you want and talk to someone about it first.
Ex had it done 36 years ago. Couple of days of soreness then fine for many years.
His testicles did swell after a lot of years but went to docs/ hospital and it was sorted.
When he died a couple of years ago from cancer, it wasn't testicular.
Mine went wrong. 5 years of pain so far one extra surgery, two sets of pain killing injections into my left nut and still in pain.
Add in I've been on testosterone replacement for 3 years due to the surgery. Looking at viagra now as T levels not great on replacement. Sex life ruined.
Crap happens and we are stuck with it.
1 in 10 go wrong and end up with permanent pain.
In and out of the operation except left was excruciatingly painful as the GP burnt through and then sealed the vas. Chopped a blood vessel as well. Internal stitches and bad swelling.
My pain consultant has said that you won't find any pain consultants who have had the snip die to the patients they have to see after it.
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