Hi, looking for some advice, maybe from some men who've been in my position.
I've been with my girlfriend for coming up three years: she's in her early 30s, I'm in my mid-30s. She has a six-year-old.
At present we live 20 miles apart. I'm happy for us to move the relationship on, I love her and see a future with her, but I just don't want to have to move to where she lives.
I own my home, which is the same city in which I work, and she rents off a family member. However, she has a 40-mile commute in the other direction, so her moving to where I live would add another 20 miles to her drive. I do accept that that is too much.
At present she is outright refusing to move from where she lives, as it would involve changing her child's school and probably her job. I understand her reasons, citing she is trying to keep things easy for her daughter so she doesn't have to change too much in one go.
She asked me whether I'd be willing to live with her for a year there, and then we'd all move back to my house; she'd change her child's school and would know a little more about what is likely to happening in her career (which is going through a lot of changes).
However, I just don't believe her that it would be for a year; and I just can't see myself being happy living in that town.
This has caused a heck of a lot of arguments, and she's accused me of being extremely selfish. I accept I am probably putting my own interests first as a result of a bad break-up in the past.
What would you say? Am I right to stick to my guns over this?
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CharlieLewis86 · 30/01/2017 13:01
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