Hi... I am a female in need of help.
My ex and I have had a crazy relationship. Full of so much love neither of us could handle it. I was constantly pushing him away. He would end up online cheating and it went over and over.
When i was pregnant last year I found out he had cheated online again. So I punched him in the head in rage.... he then punched me in the stomach, smashed my phone etc etc and the police were called I had to make a statement and didnt press charges he got a caution.
I had the baby and all seemed okay. He then went into a rage one morning at 5 am as I hadn't made his lunch. He put his hand around my throat and went to punch me. Then tried to run off with the baby with no where to go with him.
I sought help to stop him from taking the baby. I was told to go to the police for a crime ref number to then apply for a prohibitive steps order. Long story short I couldn't get one.
I have everyone tossing this term domestic.violence at me left right and centre and it's not correct.
We had a row that got out of control.
He plead not guilty to dv at court yesterday and now I am supposed to stand up in court as a witness and give evidence that he is guilty. I refuse. If I don't go I may be arrested.
I don't know where to turn. The guy was a shit boyfriend to me overall. But domestic violence it is not. I've read all the leaflets and that does not sum our relationship up. Also social services are not happy with me and investigating further as they as concerned I do not understand domestic violence. The problem is I do. It's just not correct. What do I do now?
They have insisted on pushing this and won't listen to me. They wanted bail conditions set so I made it that he can contact me for child contact and come to my adress for access. This has worked well for the past 2 months. Now at the hearing yesterday the judge decided to revoke it and he is not allowed any more. Dispite no further issues. He doesn't have any where to take my son to see him so until the trial he won't be able to. Any advise appreciated.
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dd1987 · 09/09/2016 18:35
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