Not going to name change as I haven't got anything to be ashamed about.
To put it bluntly, I feel that me and my partner don't have sex enough.
I wouldn't say I'm a sex maniac or anything but I could very easily have sex every one or two days, whereas my partner would be satisfied with once a month!
We've had many an argument over this. I try to talk rationally about it but then it just decends into shouting for us both.
He says he just doesn't want sex that often. But here's the crux...
He's been on dating sites and messaging women on Facebook, in the past, roughly 6 months ago (our DS had just been born ).
I read the messages he was sending women and they were all extremely sexual in nature, very explicit and graphic. He also had a lot of porn on his phone and had no problem sorting himself out.
We've worked and are still working through it. It's got a lot better and I believe him when he says he hasn't done it again. He hands his phone over if I ever ask for it and doesn't take it to the bathroom, etc. Things are a lot better.
Yet we still have this problem. It's always me instigating, most of the time he refuses and when we do have sex I wonder if it's only to keep me happy or shut me up.
I'm hoping that you can give me some advice as to how I can handle this and try and get to the middle somewhere.
Have any of you ever been in this situation before? Was there a reason you felt this way? Is there something I can do to help get his sex drive up?
Just for info - we've just had our first born who is a dream of a baby. He's 6mo and goes 12 hours at night. I'm about a stone heavier than I was when we met but still largely the same shape. He gives me compliments all the time and is affectionate.
Sorry if that was garbled. If you need any clarification, just ask.
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Male perspective please - lack of sex.
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