Ill start from the beginning..i have a child from a previous marriage aged 4 who I have a great relationship with. I pay 300 a month as part of the divorce settlement.
Last September I met a new lady 6 years younger than me. The relationship was great and I thought I had met " the one". After a while she told me that due to a medical condition she would not be able to concieve naturally and there was no need for contraception ( see where this is going?)...
In feburary she discovered she was pregnant. Not an ideal situation considering im not long divorced, but I tried to make the best of the situation and be the best dad / partner I could be.
However she started becoming difficult. She smoked right up until 30 weeks despite my pleas, and wouldnt take any advice on her diet ( red bull every day, little fruit or veg, lots of processed food etc).
Last night I voiced concerns about her mothers home- her mother wants to provide childcare for us once the baby arrives. Now, her mother smokes 40 a day and smokes in the house, has done for 30 years. Im aware that secondhand smoke, even if not smoking around the baby, can increase the risk of cot death hugely. I expressed my concern, and now its all kicked off. In short, my partner is ending our relationship.
I feel like im at breaking point. Im going to be an estranged dad to 2 kids, end up paying over 500 a month in maintainance, and feel like ive messed up my whole life. I feel like emptying out what little I have in my bank account and just running away. I dont know what else to do.
any advice much appreciated.
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some advice desperately needed..what a mess...
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zqo93w · 23/08/2013 16:55
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