Single dads who have used internet dating.....(15 Posts)
Presumably there are men who are after one night stands and are up front about that, or after a one night stand but lie to get it, and there are men who are after a relationship but if they meet someone who probably isn't for them relationship-wise are still up for a one night stand and who may or may not be upfront with that when on the date.
I met my boyfriend on POF.. He was a single dad and was looking for a relationship (or so he says!! Lol).. We have now been together for 16 months and are expecting a baby .. My point is not to judge a whole site just on what people have told you.. There are some lovely people amongst all the crettins who just want one thing!! :P x
I have met two ladies off a site...err..not at the same time, and the first relationship lasted a cpl of years and the latest 5 years. They told me most men show old pics that do not realy represent how they look now. Also many were after a one night stand, which i was not after. We dont live together but enjoy eachothers company. It can work, but watch for the 30+ who wants a sugar daddy ...lol
We used Datingdirect (don't know if it still exists) 10 years ago now. I found it a great way for someone who doesn't do the whole pubs/clubs/shouted smalltalk over loud music thing. I was working from home so limited socail opps through work etc. I found the whole getting to know someone by e-mail, then by telephone, then meeting up, then dates etc. I probably met up with half a dozen people through the site and contacted 30-50 (lost in the haze of time now).
I was honest in my profile (and consider those I met whad been too). I did filter out a lot of interests (football, playing video games! and clubbing etc.) and did flag walking, the outdoors, roughing it (camping etc.) in my profile. It did mean I met people I did have things in common with - and removed a lot of wasted time and effort.
Have now been together 9 year and married for 7 and have two boys so something to be said for being honest ;-)
Plenty Of Fish is best avoided.... I understand.
Use a site that has a registration fee, and that increases chance greatly of genuine folk.
Blue: Quite.....present yourself as an intelligent person who requires the same and that's what you'll get, eventually.
I had an initial filter of: No one who writes in 'text speak', 'casual encounters', no 'flesh shots' (no matter how well done!)....and able to put together a profile spiel of more than 2 lines.......oh, they needed to have punctuation some where in there as well!!
I am a single dad and have used dating sites before and after my marriage. I am not ATM as I have met some one online (again) he he.
I have found several to be very seedy (POF and another that slips the mind) but found Match.com to be a very good honest (from my point of view) site. There is a fee needed for that one so I guess that sorts the chaff from the wheat.
Hope that helps?
I've been on dating sites,purely for the reason to find someone for a relationship,I took my time reading their profiles,PM them chatted a lot then met up,even tho on most of their profiles the women said they weren't up for sex on the 1st date or some even said maybe not for a few dates,they all came on to me within the 1st hr,only 1 lasted until the next day & she even wanted me to have sex with her & her 18 yr old daughter! then they say its only men that after 1 night stands!!! yea right,whatever!
ps, my profile picture, I laugh now I think of it because I think it was taken at college for something and I was wearing a royal blue v-neck jumper and a pale blue plaid shirt under it. Shoulder length straight hair and pearl earrings!! ha ha !! must have looked like the woman least likely to give a blow job to a randomer on the first date on the entire site.....
I'm not on the site anymore though.
I think if you make your profile show that you are fairly intelligent, well-informed and use a picture that looks very classy - you won't attract lecherous chancers. I had a profile up for a short while and I spent a while making sure that it portrayed my interests and values but in a humorous, honest way. I still got some dumb messages but nobody sent me a picture of their penis !! I have heard that this is not rare . I think I ticked that I was looking for a long term relationship. I met up with one single Dad and he was very genuine but I wasn't attracted to him at all. Even then, he was so gracious about that. We got on well, so it was clear what the problem was but he was very easy-going about it. We wished each other good bye and good luck, if I'd worked with him I would have been happy to see him at work though, does that make sense! Then I met up with another single father and he was very honest. So far, no personal experience of being lied to. But then I did exchange messages with a fair few people and only chose to meet up with two of them, so maybe I have a bullshit radar.
In not a single dad but I know one who is on dating sites and he is genuine
I set myself up with a profile on OKCupid when drunk, then was all when I found it the next morning. Does that count?
Does this meant that there are no single dads out there who have used internet dating......or have you all fallen asleep
.....what is your real intention on these sites? One night stands....night out...or genuinely seeking 'Mrs Right For Me'?
I ask as I have in the past been on these sites and there seems to be alot of guys who sell themselves in one way, only for it to turn out that they want to get you into bed. I've been honest in my profile in what I am looking for....and it says that I'm not into one night stands
well unless ure really Mr Perfect but we all know he doesn't exist so if thats what your looking for then I am not for you....but they still contact me!
Any advice/tips on what guys REALLY mean on their profiles?
Should i just resign myself to the fact that I will remain single for the rest of my life? <<sighs heavily>>
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