Is "ladies" patronising?

(10 Posts)
CabbagesOnFire Mon 18-Apr-16 10:59:33

My partner, with nothing but polite intentions (he's a brainy engineering type, not much given to considerations of language/meaning/etiquette) uses the word "ladies." I find it weird and patronising. As in "At the top of the hill were a group of ladies on their phones."
Does anyone else feel the same way?
I think of myself as a woman, and would never refer to myself as a lady unless I was being silly in a mock-posh sort of a way.

MattDillonsPants Mon 18-Apr-16 11:10:23

Well have you told him? Being brainy and an engineering type means nothing by the way when it comes to being aware of sounding like a tit.

Ladies does garner mixed response on here you will find. Some don't like it, others do. I always think it's best to accept that if some don't like it then it's better to find another term.

CabbagesOnFire Mon 18-Apr-16 11:23:02

Ha ha, yes I have told him.
I just wondered if it was just me. Interesting that you say it's been discussed before.

MardyBra Mon 18-Apr-16 15:24:33

""At the top of the hill were a group of ladies on their phones."
in this context it is, unless he would say a group of gentlemen on their phones. women is better imo.

I would only use ladies in a situation where I would use gentlemen, or gents - mainly addressing groups or talking about loos.

catsofa Mon 18-Apr-16 15:34:05

I hate it, I'm a woman!

AlleyCatandRastaMouse Mon 18-Apr-16 15:35:52

Use ladies only where you would use gents to describe the male equivalent scenario is my view. We have a few ladies sports round these parts and I hate it.

Owllady Mon 18-Apr-16 15:36:20

I'm married to an engineer

Bloodybridget Sun 08-May-16 13:02:18

I notice when DP and I are together in a cafe, for example, we're very often addressed as 'ladies' as in 'what can I get you ladies?' (we are both women, obviously!) and it does make me cringe a bit, but I understand it's meant politely and there isn't a clear alternative. But people using the word to refer to a third party sounds kind of old-fashioned and sexist.

MomofBride Sun 08-May-16 13:09:52

No one would say to two men in a cafe 'what can I get you gentlemen' would they. What is wrong with 'what would you like' or 'what can I get you'. Unless it's referring to the loos it's patronising.

Bloodybridget Mon 09-May-16 22:02:42

MomofBride that's true. I wonder what I'd say if I was working in a cafe?

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