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Frugal Friends, planning, saving and considerate spending through July and August

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Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Sun 07-Jul-19 16:25:35

New Fred frugal friends

lifelongfrugaleer Sun 07-Jul-19 16:34:01

Being non frugal and jumping on now.
Meatballs is now on my list

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Sun 07-Jul-19 17:44:34

Life meatballs come with variations so potentially a few meals in there. For general weekday I buy my meatballs

Beef meatballs subs - good splash of ragu and melted cheese usually on a part bake baguette so the bread is warm too
Beef meatballs, sauce, mash
Beef meatballs, sauce, pasta
Lamb meatballs, sauce (change herbs and spices to Moroccan type) add chickpeas. Serve with couscous it mash

lifelongfrugaleer Sun 07-Jul-19 18:35:15

I buy the Aldi 5% ones as they are the ones we all like. Ditto the 5% burgers

CurvyInAllTheWrongPlaces Sun 07-Jul-19 18:48:51

Thanks for the new Fred wolf!

Girliefriendlikescake Sun 07-Jul-19 19:31:41

Thanks for the new fred wolf

We had a nice day in the end, decided to jack in housework and food shopping and went up the beach instead 🤣

Dd has been grumpy most of the day but was happy enough to hang out at the beach, she had a minor meltdown on the way home as was too hot and her clothes had got a bit wet 😕 Had planned on stopping at mums for a bit but decided it was too much so came home.

Spent £6 on some new crabbing bits and £3 on drinks.

LivingInLaputa Sun 07-Jul-19 20:11:47

Hi, thank you for new thread. I’m determined to keep up properly again!

Lovemaltesers Sun 07-Jul-19 20:28:15

Thanks for the new thread

ememem84 Sun 07-Jul-19 21:05:51

Ello. Nice shiny Fred.

trinitybleu Sun 07-Jul-19 22:23:13

Meatballs, mash, peas and fake IKEA sauce.... Half gravy granules, half peppercorn sauce granules. Brown the meatballs a bit then pour over sauce. Cook til sauce reduced and meatballs cooked (10 mins approx)

Rightwayup Mon 08-Jul-19 07:50:57

Also determine to keep up. Off work most of the summer so need frugal things to do. Also want to spend next 8 weeks getting v fit. Ha

SnugglySnerd Mon 08-Jul-19 17:54:34

Thanks for the new thread.
Great prize, Sea. What a lovely treat!


ememem84 Mon 08-Jul-19 18:03:57

Ok. Spendy day.

£155 in next sale. Managed to grab some sleep suits for baby, some summery clothes she 0-3, some autumny type stuff aged 3-6 and some 9-12 summer stuff for our Mexico trip next year. All in all good haul. Full price almost £400

Lovemaltesers Mon 08-Jul-19 21:19:31

What a great prize sea. Well done!

I officially cannot be arsed anymore. I just want the summer holidays and my additional working days to be done too so I can be off for three weeks. These weeks are dragging.

Spent about £4 in Aldi and then Tesco (as Aldi had no cucumber)

Happierwithouthim Mon 08-Jul-19 22:07:36

Hi everyone thanks for new thread wolf
I'm going to post spends I can recall
€65 meal & drink with friends fri night
€99 Penney's mainly clothes for dd €14 on T-shirt's for ds (he gets a lot of handmedowns from his nephew)
€39 next sale for dd
€8 on Argos water filters for my brita jug
€216 Dunnes stores approx €50 on clothes (never bringing dc shopping in evening time again & not with a hangover either)
€100 dd camp
€20 ds play therapy
€2 wetsuit hire for dd for tomorrow's camp

Text from h today 'Morning just transferred the usual money also transferred the 50 for dd's camp still owe 150 for dress' WTAF DD's communion celebration cost far more than price of her dress angryshock haven't replied yet because I'm way too angry atm

ChristmasSeacow Mon 08-Jul-19 23:49:12

Happier just say you are happy to pick up all the communion costs now if he covers all her wedding. Knobber.

I am tired today so not making much sense (except about the knobber above, of course wink) . DS had sports day today and while he mostly failed to follow even the simple instructions for each activity, he joined in and didn’t have a meltdown at the crowds /lack of routine / sitting around / being generally confused about what was going on. He was very good and I told him at the end that I was super proud. To which he told me very loudly to go home (because after all, it was the middle of the school day so what was I doing there? Was I going to take him away when the day wasn’t finished?!) . I get it but the other parents seemed a bit hmmgrin. He was holding hands quite a bit with a little girl that he apparently really likes - she is completely neurotypical and has lots of friends but she seems to like him and is very patient and kind with him. His TA says he’s always calmer around her. How lovely. DS’s school is such a lovely place - they are properly inclusive and encourage kindness towards everyone. But she’s obviously a lovely girl too. I told her dad so.

As for the rest... work, work, work, eating chocolate, diet disaster, no time to spend. Still trying to think of a gift for D’s lovely teacher and 1:1 TA. There is a class collection but they put so
much into him that I want to do something special for them too. It’s his teacher’s first year of teaching and I think DS has made quite an impression!

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Tue 09-Jul-19 04:42:00

Sea try not on the high street for personal teacher gifts or could he paint her a plant pot in one of those pot painting places?

Work manic here. Don’t know whether I’m coming or going. Also not sleeping. Combination of too hot/sore leg/too wired from work/bad dreams. I’m absolutely knackered.

Life enjoy cos today, I’m going a bit further south, one day we will time it right

Nsd yesterday won’t be today but some will be reclaimable

Happier h is an arse

ememem84 Tue 09-Jul-19 06:29:35

Agree happier h is a bit of a knob cheese.

Dh went to the pub last night with Bil and sil. Ds was in bed. Then he woke up and didn’t go back to sleep until 10. 😓

Had a chat with dh when he came back which somehow turned into him telling me he feels like shit everyone treats him like shit and he does nothing for himself and people just take advantage.

I said I don’t want the dog round here at the weekend. Absolutely not. No dog because ds is scared. Dh is going to have s word with Fil and gf. But he said when they come they’ll bring it anyway most likely. So I asked what he’s going to do. Apparently nothing. He asked me what I want him to do. So I said I want him to make them realise that the dog is not welcome because of ds and catface. And I’d take it home fir then if they refused. Apparently I’m unreasonable and will cause issues.

He also said he can see gf trying to drive a wedge in. probably between dh and Fil. I’ve seen this for a long time. And stupidly said so. So why didn’t I tell him? Because he wouldn’t listen to it maybe?!

FFs. At the end of it I cried. And just told him I don’t want anyone here on Saturday. It’s my first day of maternity leave. Might be the last Saturday we have as just the three of us and I want to do something nice for ds. Selfish though. 😪

Anyway. Last Tuesday at work this year today. Yay.

lifelongfrugaleer Tue 09-Jul-19 06:32:00

Sea I once wrote an email to one of DD teacher and copied her head in. I used the buzz words ie inclusive, teacher patent relationship blah blah. However the message to the head was I hope this year and the excellent work with my child was reflected in her performance rating.
Especially if she is first year she will be quite low on the scale.
Would DS draw/mark on a card. I world go nice note book and pens stationery myself.

What a knob happier.

I cba yesterday. Got the all clear with my throat though. I'm ready for leave.

Keep looking after yourself wolf. Yy, one day

SnugglySnerd Tue 09-Jul-19 09:19:30

That's great about sports day Sea.

Em that's not selfish. Yanbu to want a day to yourselves and definitely to refuse the dog because of ds and the cat. They are being really selfish if they still bring it. My in laws have dogs. They would never bring them here while the children are small and knowing the dd2 is scared of them. Even before we had dcs they never brought them because of our cat. If we go to their house they keep the dogs in another room. They have brought them out for walks with us, on a lead with toddlers in the pushchair which is ok.

Thatsnotmybaby Tue 09-Jul-19 11:52:02

Thanks for new thread @Wolfcubisthefemalenominal.
Childfree day off for me today, I went back to sleep for a couple of hours as DC, and consequently me, has had lots of broken sleep recently. Going to spend the day catching up on things around the house now, it feels a bit neglected.

Girliefriendlikescake Tue 09-Jul-19 12:30:00

I'm working from home today, feels like such a nice treat! Also going to take a slightly extended lunch break and look at some puppies this afternoon 😁

Ystd I did an Aldi shop £44 and got a fair bit for that.

Love that your ds has a little buddy sea how cute is that!

Happier 😡** he makes it sound like he's doing you a favour as well!

Em you're about to have a baby, it's totally fine to be a bit selfish!! I do think though with the puppy you might have to be a tiny bit flexible, it's probably good for catface to meet him while he is still so young and get them used to each other. Likewise the more time ds spends with him the more they can get used to each other. I imagine at the moment though it all just feels too much and it's understandable you want to keep things quiet and calm and not have a puppy tearing about the house!!

ememem84 Tue 09-Jul-19 12:54:52

girlie I absolutely want ds to be ok with the puppy. Im just not happy how they give it treats every time it jumps up at ds or anyone else or nips someone. So agree more time with ds and the dog is needed. But I’d like them to not laugh when he’s scared and runs away. And to tell the dog off. I can’t really because it’s not mine. It’ll take time I know.

I’ve just bought some baby bits in M&S. £38. Only £10 actual money as used the rest of a gift card I had.

I’m feeling very down today. So am here at work just plodding through stuff.

3 more working days this year. Eeek.

I have also treated myself to a spicy as hell peri peri chicken wrap from the Portuguese cafe £5.40. Chicken mayo all the salad and cheese and coleslaw. It’s gigantic. But so so yum.

LivingInLaputa Tue 09-Jul-19 18:43:20

Hugs em sorry you feel down.

Spendy afternoon, after the doctors I got a few bits of clothing for myself and some art supplies to do some creative things with the Caglets over the holidays. Also a prescription as she said I have to double my beta blockers.

I may also have had a Shakeaway grin

We had our home ed “inspection” today which went well, the Caglets talked her ears off about Macbeth, Blue Peter badges and the periodic table.

Lovemaltesers Tue 09-Jul-19 19:23:50

Your DC sound fab laputa

Big hug em . Nearly there and sh*t just seems to keep being thrown at you flowerscake Your lunch sounded amazing.


I managed to book the DC in for a free dry ski slope lesson in a couple of weeks time. I expect it will cost me a tea from their cafe while we watch.

Lovemaltesers Tue 09-Jul-19 19:25:33

My DD had her year 3 sex Ed lesson this week. I keep getting little comments from her at random times about what she learnt smile

SnugglySnerd Tue 09-Jul-19 19:50:49

Laputa have I missed a name change?!

LivingInLaputa Tue 09-Jul-19 19:56:01

Yes snuggly grin I have a feeling the home ed has given it away though grin

LivingInLaputa Tue 09-Jul-19 19:56:57

Well, that and the fact I still refer to the kids as Caglets. Oops.

Girliefriendlikescake Tue 09-Jul-19 20:03:12

So exciting day here as put a deposit on this little chap!! He's only 4 weeks so not ready yet, if all goes to plan should get him just after we get back from our holiday about the 5th of August. Haven't told dd yet, want to try and keep it a surprise and tell her the first wend of the holidays...

Mum has kindly paid the deposit.

LivingInLaputa Tue 09-Jul-19 20:11:15

OMG so cute 😍 breed?

Girliefriendlikescake Tue 09-Jul-19 20:17:30

Breed would be mutt lap 😁 he's a yorkie/Jack Russell mix.

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Tue 09-Jul-19 20:21:48

Warning Triggering

So h tried to top himself (very serious attempt requiring surgery to repair damage) and is in residential psychiatric care - how did I find out you may ask. Two missed calls from social services and I asked him why they might be calling. It all came out then. He’s been lying about where he is and what’s wrong with him. Even got the senior staff nurse to lie to me when she rang to say he was in with chest pains a few weeks ago and couldn’t see ds

Every time things start to luck up for us and start to get better he finds a way to fuck it up. I know I sound unsympathetic right now but my concerns are for ds’s welfare

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Tue 09-Jul-19 20:24:01

Girlie he’s so cute ❤️
Laputa the Caglets sound amazing
Em definitely a need for film and gf to get the puppy to puppy classes I think

LivingInLaputa Tue 09-Jul-19 20:29:46

Oh shit wolf sad is DS aware?
I had thought mental health was a main factor in the split, I possibly misunderstood there though, is this a first time thing?
Take some time to process things. Xx

lifelongfrugaleer Tue 09-Jul-19 20:43:55

Fucking hell wolf. Massive hugs for you. That is so selfish of him and you have a good right to be angry. Yy to focus on DS.
Pm if you want to chat off line.

lifelongfrugaleer Tue 09-Jul-19 20:46:43

Pleased the little laputas did you proud lap.
Em not long now.

Girlie OMG sssooooooo cute.

£25 on gym, lunch for work but can be claimed

Lovemaltesers Tue 09-Jul-19 21:22:56

Oh wolf that is crap. Truly. flowers

Rightwayup Tue 09-Jul-19 21:29:12

Wolf so sorry what a shock. Not sure what to advise. Can you access any help through work?

Unescorted Tue 09-Jul-19 21:31:44

hmmm my post escaped into the ether. The digested read is

Wolf that sucks... on so many levels.

Lap - caglets = laplets & just as cute
Girie - soooooooooooooooo cute.

Thanks for the meal ideas on the previous thread.

CurvyInAllTheWrongPlaces Tue 09-Jul-19 23:48:47

Oh Wolf, that is truly crap flowers

Em, the end is in sight.
I hope fil sees sense soon about the puppy.

Laputa, you must be so proud of your DCs!

Girlie, aww so cute.

I had a really good morning at work, we took some children to a local art session, it was really good.
In the afternoon I had to help restrain a child as they were very distressed. I remembered my training and did everything by the book, the parent was there too and I had their full support, but I hoped I would never have to use it.
I had to go and have a little bit of a cry after, I never expected that, I guess it was just all the emotions involved.

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Wed 10-Jul-19 05:38:57

Ah Curvy that sounds incredibly hard but you were doing it right and with good reason, I’m not surprised you needed to have a bit of a cry flowers

Thanks for the support guys. Will hopefully it manage to speak to social services today and see what the implications for contact are.

SnugglySnerd Wed 10-Jul-19 07:29:59

Oh my goodness Wolf how awful. What are you going to tell ds?

Girlie he's adorable!

ChristmasSeacow Wed 10-Jul-19 07:41:11

Gosh Wolf, what a mess! Do I understand that this was a few weeks ago but you’ve only just found out? Is DH more stable now? I hope it doesn’t knock DS too much sad . Or you for that matter flowers

Needs must Curvy but I’m not surprised it’s taken it out of you.

Lap great result on the home Ed inspection.

I made a huuuuuge vat of sauce and meatballs last night. Friends (moving house) are still coming round for dinner tomorrow, I just thought I’d get ahead and then I can do that before the governors’ Meeting. It’ll be a rush but doable. What’s a nice pudding after meatballs? I’ll probably bake something.

Big work deadline today and a lot to do. Pedal to the metal 💪🏻

ememem84 Wed 10-Jul-19 08:53:44

Oh wolf that’s awful!

I’m doing ok. Slept well last night. Came into work and have a naice coffee from the shop and a pecan danish. Yay. £3.

ememem84 Wed 10-Jul-19 08:58:08

Today’s jobs. Take a waddle to furniture shop near work and ask them re delivery of new headboard for our bed. They have ordered us a new one as the one they sent was damaged. On the back. Which goes against the wall. The delivery people noticed it. Left it anyway but honestly we wouldn’t have noticed it.

I’m leaving dh to deal with Fil and the dog. His family. His crazy. I’m trusting that he will have a word and deal as necessary. He knows my feelings. Knows I think Fil and gf don’t respect him/us. So will do what they want anyway. But also knows feet need to be put down.

Taytocrisps Wed 10-Jul-19 11:07:14

Wolf so sorry to hear your update. You've had so much stress already. This is the last thing you (and DS) need!

I'm grabbing 5 minutes between packing. Heading to Dublin today because I'm staying with a relative before heading to Dublin Airport tomorrow. Still need to empty the fridge and leave the bins at the side entrance. A neighbour will leave them out for the binman on Friday. Is there anything else I'm forgetting?

maddenlightfoot Wed 10-Jul-19 13:15:24

Wolf what a shock to find out that way. Is DS aware of previous MH issues? How do you think he'll react? I'm so sorry you're still carrying this emotional load despite being separated. Take care of yourself first so you can be strong for DS thanks

£1 spent today on tomatoes so we can have salad with some veggie burgers from the freezer. We only have a small freezer and it had become jam-packed so trying to eat all the odds and ends. Yesterday we had prawn fried rice to start followed by pea and mint risotto 😂
Tesco delivery due tomorrow but haven't even started thinking of a menu plan yet.

Chocolatefrog27 Wed 10-Jul-19 13:16:28

I need this thread in my life right now!!
So skint and with summer holidays coming up I have no idea how we'll spend our time

maddenlightfoot Wed 10-Jul-19 16:19:03

Hi chocolatefrog - also wondering how to afford the holidays! I started a savings account this time last year with the intention of putting money aside for extra treats and holiday spending money but keep taking money out of it for other reasons! It's got £200 which will probably just about cover ice-creams with 3 children 🙄🍦!

Thatsnotmybaby Wed 10-Jul-19 16:27:44

Welcome @Chocolatefrog27.
Oh that's horrendous news @Wolfcubisthefemalenominal, I can understand you are worried about DS, hope you can look after yourself in all this too.
Was woken early by DC this morning but I was in bed early too so it wasn't so bad, I really need to keep up the early nights, which requires discipline, any tips? I'm thinking of rewarding myself somehow grin blush

maddenlightfoot Wed 10-Jul-19 17:27:36

Ok, think this is the meal plan:
Thurs: sausage roast (mostly from freezer)
Fri: chicken&veg skewers w buck wheat tabbouleh
Sat: picnic lunch / hm pizza
Sun: picnic lunch / honey&mustard pork and gnocchi
Mon: chickpea tray-bake
Tues: curry fried rice
Weds: cottage pie

The kids, of course, will eat only 20% of the above so early tea time will be supported by sandwiches, picky teas, fishfingers and tomato soup!

lifelongfrugaleer Wed 10-Jul-19 20:10:47

Cancel the milk tayto. Lights on a timer.

School holiday cost a fricking fortune. We need an old frugaleer and her bucket list back for cheap days out.
£3.49 Holland and Barrett, £18 superdrug,£17 KFC not worth the calories imo, £15 Iceland and£22 Aldi

Unescorted Wed 10-Jul-19 20:48:47

Hi ChocFrog - does that make you a Freddo?

Wolf I hope you are OK - I was thinking of you and your DS today.

Life I am not a fan of KFC either. We have been experimenting with chicken variations - nuggets, southern fried etc. There are some great home made seasoning mixes and rubs. When I find one we like I make a jar up and then it is a quick and easy dinner option.

The cost of summer holidays is bonkers here - the boys are away to the states for 5 -6 weeks and therefore I feel obliged to make it a good holiday for DD as well to keep it fair. I will be eating stale bread topped with worm pate & washed down with water to make ends meet.

Anyhoo - proud parent moment. DS won head of house award at school prize giving.

lifelongfrugaleer Wed 10-Jul-19 21:16:17

Yeah well done DS. Although worm pate, pft posh bastard, should have the stale bread and be grateful. Especially if the mould is cut off first.

Unescorted Wed 10-Jul-19 21:34:17

Do you not dry the mould on a tray on the window sill and grind it? Makes a fab seasoning for water & ice soup. Like blue cheese without the cheese.

ChristmasSeacow Wed 10-Jul-19 22:56:26

Ew, mould 🤢. You lot are gross.

Welcome Freddo (I thought the same thing Unescorted wink).

I meant to say earlier: what a gorgeous puppy Girlie - more pics please! I don’t think you’ll regret it, if will be brilliant for your DD.

Still working but just taking a break to eat a very old pizza I found in the freezer. I only have an hour or two left to do. I have been very productive today, I have done a Big Thing almost from start to finish. Not nsd but not too bad - spent £2.85 in Costa but then sat there for 3 hours blush (it wasn’t busy) . Then a quick grab in Waitrose (mostly fruit), £15. Collected some sandals from JL that I was planning to wear to a wedding this weekend but think they might be too narrow. Not uncomfortable, because they’re sandals, but I think they look too small. I haven’t got time to find an alternative though confused

Also dreading the holidays - not so much a money problem for us because I can’t think of places that are suitable to go to with an anxious ASD boy, and also in charge of a toddler. I think we are going to be stuck at home a lot as I need two adults to take mine out anywhere and DH doesn’t have any more leave to take. We will be Climbing. The . Walls.

northender Thu 11-Jul-19 05:58:06

Thanks for the new thread.
Have been awol for a week but keeping up.
Girlie very cute dog.
Welcome chocolatefrog lots of support, advice & general chat here
laputa sounds like the dc did you proud
Tayto have a good holiday
wolf that news is difficult to deal with. Hope you're getting things sorted.
unescorted well done to ds on his award
Christmas hope you got the work finished.

So, since last week, ds made it back from the cricket at Headingley in one piece, a bit drunk, but having had a great day. He's not having a great week health wise. His eye has flared up and along with that, his fatigue. We've abandoned frugality and booked an appointment with a private consultant on the recommendation of a work colleague. It's a week on Monday, so fingers crossed we get some answers. The urgent nhs appt for his eye is on Oct 29th angrysad.

Dh had a good time with his parents in Devon & didn't spend too much.

Dd is off to a theme park for a "Reward Trip" today. Not a reward for the parents though, at £28!

It has been a ridiculously busy week at work, but quite productive. Hoping to finish early today & to take some time back. Day off tomorrow. Lots to do as camping in the Lakes (shore of Ullswater) for the weekend, so need to dig tent & camping gear out of the garage & get food etc ready to take.

Low spend week so far.

northender Thu 11-Jul-19 06:00:31

madden I like the sound of your meal plan.
thatsnot can't give any tips for earlier nights as I'm rubbish at it. Will watch with interest though!

ememem84 Thu 11-Jul-19 06:28:44

Texted the midwife yesterday as had found out about something which might a) help me relax and sleep and b) could help with my uncomfortableness.

Float therapy. Essentially a big super salty pool of warmy water. They pop you in (with the lid on the pod if you want) an eye mask and plinky plunky music and you float for an hour.

Float place say it’s ok to use when I’m this pregnant. Midwife says ok. So I’ve booked a session. £60. But apparently worth every penny. Dh was going to get me a preggo massage/facial but he’s got this for me instead.

Midwife said she’s enquires about some physio for me because of the soreness in my hips etc but the earliest I can have an apt is September if I don’t go privately. And she suggested that going privately might not be worth it as I’m 37 weeks already.

If it’s still uncomfy after baby I can then get a private referral so will see.

Planned spends today - lunch. It’s my last week at work and I’m treating myself to lunch at all my fave places. 😉 once I’m on leave it’ll be lunch at home most days so am making the most of the naice cafes etc here. Today I might go to the organic place and have falafel.

lifelongfrugaleer Thu 11-Jul-19 06:32:46

Ice and water soup. Only in winter other wise is just water soup. Avoid the yellow extras.
Ok will stop now.
Seriously hoping for some good weather as it's far easier to be frugal in the nice weather.

Have fun in the lakes. Which site in Ullswater. That's not far from us and where we tend to go to.
Pleased DS had a good time at the cricket. Hope the specialist gives answers.
Chocolate frog. I thought Harry potter but then my DC are obsessed. How old are your dc? Do you have to fit work in too?

Nsd planned today.

lifelongfrugaleer Thu 11-Jul-19 06:34:17

Don't blame you em. Enjoy your lunch and flotation.

maddenlightfoot Thu 11-Jul-19 07:00:34

Haha! I also thought Harry Potter!

North the private consultant sounds worth every penny. Why be frugal if not to spend what we've saved on the important things. Hope DS feels better over the week and you get some answers thanks

I read a great tip on one of these threads years back for summer holidays... (although it has some cost outlay to begin with) when buying annual membership to places, buy half way through the summer holidays. By the time next year comes round, you still have membership to visit for the first half of the summer and then can spend the second half visiting somewhere new with a new membership.
Similarly, if on holiday in UK, many places have 'free return for a week' on admission. Plan it beforehand. We'll be visiting a local theme park that has a huge softplay. We'll return at least once anyway but it's a real life-saver if the weather is dire as we can just pop in for an hour here and there.
But weather wise, we'll be at the beach or walking come rain or shine - free is free!!
This year we're already making use of the 'free adult admission' that are often on packs of cereal and hand wash to visit The National Sealife Centre in Birmingham. This will be whilst visiting family so I've already been looking up free places nearby and we'll also be visiting The Donkey Sanctuary whilst we're there (we've exhausted all of the free places near us!!)

ememem84 Thu 11-Jul-19 07:51:24

Asked dh to get me into work early today. Nope. He has a yoga class at 920 so doesn’t want to be early for that. Ffs. I asked him yesterday. At this rate I’ll be in at 9 when I have a client coming in at 9. Bus has left which would get me there early.

His words are “you’re paid from 9-5, it’s your last week, let someone else deal with it” to a certain extent I see his point. However. It’s my last week. My cover only works mon - weds and I have a lot to do today and tomorrow.

ememem84 Thu 11-Jul-19 08:17:19

I suggested I drive myself. But dh wants the car - otherwise he’ll be stuck inside all day you could get the bus into town to get the car

This is always an issue because we only have one car. If we had 2 cars it wouldn’t be an issue.

Happierwithouthim Thu 11-Jul-19 08:57:37

Will catch up with everyone else soon but em why does dh get priority/final decision about the car?

wolf wow you'd a lot on your plate with ds since separation and now this shock obviously I've sympathy for your h too because he's got his own troubles but it's you that's our friend here.

Thatsnotmybaby Thu 11-Jul-19 10:02:17

Yesterday was NSD.
I wasn't feeling well last night and I'm feeling zonked today.

ememem84 Thu 11-Jul-19 12:50:51

happier to be fair that’s the way we’ve always worked it. Whoever stays home has the car and they drop the other one at work.

Dh dropped me in early doors in the end. He was probably early for yoga. But whatever.

Anyway. I got to work. Dh got to yoga. And ds got to nursery. All good.

Girliefriendlikescake Thu 11-Jul-19 17:37:51

Afternoon all, quick catch up.

The floatation tank sounds lush em.

Today has been a nsd and Ystd was a lsd. Although have just sent a cheque off for £90 for dds summer holiday club!!

Not much going on here, plodding on plodding on.

SnugglySnerd Thu 11-Jul-19 20:47:30

Madden that is an absolutely brilliant idea about the annual membership!

Happierwithouthim Thu 11-Jul-19 21:04:33

Ok em sorry for jumping to conclusions

ememem84 Thu 11-Jul-19 21:45:55

No worries happier technically it is Dhs car as it’s registered in his name. I only find out about this when I got caught speeding and the police officer looked up the details. 😱 I just assumed it was registered In both names but apparently you can’t do that here.

We’ve talked about 2 cars before. But given we both work In town it makes no sense to take one car to work and leave the other day on the drive not being used.

While I’m on leave I can borrow DMs car whenever I want as her and dad have 2. So that’ll be a massive help. If it were up to dh he’d go without a car (well he says this...I’ve challenged him before not to use it but he moans about the bus and either deliberately misses it or Just misses it and I end up giving him lifts everywhere.

In the past when he’s moaned about me “hogging” the car I’ve threatened to take myself off the insurance meaning he’d have to drive me/us everywhere. He didn’t like that idea.

Tomorrow is my last day of work this year! How has that happened.

I also have a bit of a cold - which I am hoping might be the start of something. #wishfulthinking

Cleared out my desk today. Have to hand everything over tomorrow. I’m going to be sad to leave albeit temporarily. I love my work family.

northender Thu 11-Jul-19 22:57:14

life Waterside Farm is the site we're going to. Looking forward to it.

ememem84 Fri 12-Jul-19 06:30:05

Last day of work this year!! How’d that happen?

And possibly last Friday of work as when I go back in January I’ll onmy be working Monday to Thursday.

Lunch at Japanese/sushi place today with team. Gutted to not have sushi (although would it really do any harm now?!) but the Katsu curry the place does is said to be yummmmm.

Have to pick up cupcakes I ordered this morning. £50 ish on 25 cakes. Eeek. But they do look beautiful and all hand made etc. Sadly (or maybe not sadly) I mis counted how many I needed. I forgot that some people are on holidays oops.

lifelongfrugaleer Fri 12-Jul-19 06:30:12

Nice site. I haven't done that one we usually do the one called Ullswater.

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Fri 12-Jul-19 06:34:14

Have a great last day Em

lifelongfrugaleer Fri 12-Jul-19 07:09:28

Enjoy your last day em. Hope they spoil you

Chocolatefrog27 Fri 12-Jul-19 07:15:04

One of my bad habits is spending money on lunch at work and I'm really pleased that I've not done that once this week and have brought food in from home instead. Probably saved me well over a tenner.

I'm trying to budget for the weekend although I've agreed to meet a friend for lunch so that'll be some spends there. How's everyone else doing?

Happierwithouthim Fri 12-Jul-19 08:44:57

What better leftovers to have at the start of your mat leave em winksmile

Girliefriendlikescake Fri 12-Jul-19 09:15:50

Day off today 😃 getting my hair cut later, have vouchers so shouldn't be too expensive. Busy wend starting with watching Madness tonight who are playing locally which should be great!

Another hen do tomorrow and then my dad and step mum are visiting Sunday. We're going to be looking after their dog for a bit which will be good practice for us!!

Hopefully shouldn't be too spendy, we'll eat before going out tonight so just the cost of a few drinks. The hen do tomorrow will probably be around £30 ish as we're having dinner etc.

ememem84 Fri 12-Jul-19 09:45:58

Ahem. Well worth the £50 I think....!

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Fri 12-Jul-19 11:43:32

£43 haircut
£115 Sainsbury’s but did include £30 of new nightshirts as mine all are a bit knackered. Knocked £15 off that with nectar points

Foot peel socks on envy not envy

Need to spend £15 on ds’s haircut later

Girliefriendlikescake Fri 12-Jul-19 13:46:14

£24 hair cut should have been £54 but I had £30 worth of vouchers, it looks so much better for it!!

£4 Morrisons on two snapdragon plants.

It's such a beautiful day, sat in my garden now.

Cakes look amazing em!

ememem84 Fri 12-Jul-19 15:09:05

They were amazing!!

Just back from team lunch. Prawn Katsu. Mmm.

maddenlightfoot Fri 12-Jul-19 16:36:37

There must be something in the 'hair' today - me too! £40

Girlie I'm a west-country girl! Grew up between where you're seeing Madness tonight and the nearest big town! x

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Fri 12-Jul-19 17:24:52

They look lovely Em

£98 M&S online for school trousers, socks, pants and pjs for ds shock. Picking up Sunday so he can try the trousers on and they can be returned if necessary. Pjs needed for holidays and a lot of his pants are too small

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Fri 12-Jul-19 17:56:42

£40 millers backpac for ds
£36 joules T-shirt’s for me
£28 superdry pencil case, flip flops and long sleeve T-shirt for ds

All sale items or discount codes used and free delivery wherever possible

If all is ok and fits I only have to do local uniform shop for shirts and pe kit and school shoes and I’m done for next term

ememem84 Fri 12-Jul-19 17:58:03

It’s done. Last day of work for 2019. Finished. Bring on maternity leave.

I’m both sad and relieved to be finished.

Beautiful flowers and huge card from the office. The tradition is to buy a gift once baby arrives.

Desk cleared. Work handed over. Emails filed. Out of office on. Last full week for potentially ever.

Now sat with ds on the couch. We’re sharing breadsticks and We’ve watered the garden and dh is making pizza. We’re watching fireman Sam. Sheep are loose in pontypandy.

SnugglySnerd Fri 12-Jul-19 19:19:12

Congratulations Em! Enjoy your maternity leave. Hope you get some rest before the new arrival.

I am so tired. The dcs are also tired. All the kids at school are tired. It's not good!

ememem84 Fri 12-Jul-19 19:50:08

R fed and Novak tennis final on Sunday. Gutted I turned down those tickets!!!!

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Fri 12-Jul-19 20:17:50

Should be an excellent game Em, watch with your feet up and a seedlip

Meal plan
Falafel, houmous, salad and Pitta
Tagliatelle, cheese sauce, garlic bread
Mushroom risotto
Mushroom sausages, mash, veg
Quorn fajitas

Stationery and pe bag ordered. Might pay a visit to uniform store tomorrow and just get it all wrapped up, depends how enthusiastic I'm feeling

Pottered round the garden trimming, feeding and watering and treating black spot

Snuggly end-of-termitis is definitely in residence. Must be a nightmare for you and anyone who works in a school trying to keep control of 30 fed up tired, hot, kids at a time

Happierwithouthim Fri 12-Jul-19 20:48:57

Happy weekend everyone , happy mat leave em & happy holidays to me grin

Yesterday spends €15 on new cable to charge my phone €4 on reeses nut bar for me & sweets for dd, ds had some earlier so he was excluded (plus he'd been awful towards me)
€6.35 on pre holiday/monthly lunch out today grin

ememem84 Fri 12-Jul-19 21:21:27

I’m so looking forward to it wolf I’ve made more ice for the seedlip and am planning on buying the strawberries and cream. Mmm. Should be an ace game.

lifelongfrugaleer Sat 13-Jul-19 07:38:11

Cakes look lovely em. Enjoy mat leave.

Need to buy 3 birthday presents today. And some food this weekend. £40 on theatre tickets last night. It didn't rain thankfully.

Happierwithouthim Sat 13-Jul-19 08:50:17

Spends yesterday €0.75 on a birthday card for next May but it has my brothers nickname on it & was reduced in next grin
Returned bits to next that didn't fit dd

Tesco Lego set for ds santa 25% off €20
a catch style game with 2 rackets & a whistling rocket type thing for our holidays €10
2 rings for myself same one in gold & silver €5 each
fibre 1 bars & chocolate rice cakes for our holidays

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Sat 13-Jul-19 09:52:07

£2.50 spends for ds who is at an event
£7 home bargains on long handled loppers and cold pills
£58 on five school shirt and a pe shirt (still a rugby shirt to buy) shock

Bloody expensive

LivingInLaputa Sat 13-Jul-19 10:43:38

Hello everyone. Not been posting much but have been reading along.
Em happy first day of maternity leave! Eeeek not long now!
Wolf how are you feeling now?

The biggest news here is that DD has declared she is now ready to try secondary school! She’s been adamantly against it for the last year or so having had a bit of a wobble while her friends were doing all the SATs/end of year six stuff. However she has always said she may want to try at some point and I think she would regret not trying. So we have spent the last year in particular working on more structured home ed stuff to get her more ready, and she’s worked hard on getting over her fears and is so much more confident and moved on from what went on at juniors.

It’s not going to be as simple as just getting a school place, partly as our town is mega over subscribed in most schools! Also it’s important to make sure she has a lot of support in place, due to the ASD and the other issues that aren’t diagnosed yet. We have both Caglets’ assessments next month and they’ll give a report which we plan to use to get an EHCP. Then we will look round school open days in September and see what happens really. Hopefully she will get in somewhere partway through (year 8) and in the meantime we are carrying on as we are and getting her as ready as possible!

(DS is very different, and is absolutely against the idea, so will stay home ed and we will have more time to focus on science which is his passion!)

So big changes here! shock

Unescorted Sat 13-Jul-19 11:06:23

That is a big change lap But good on her for finding the courage to face her fears.

Freddo Taking a pack up saves a fortune. Not only do you save the cost of the lunch on the day you also get in the mindset of not buying out when you go for trips. We always have on the go snackage that can be popped in a jersey pocket or made into a café at home meal. It does make us popular for drop in guests mind.....

em those cakes look scrum.

I love Ullswater North One of the best bits of my job is pootling around Cumbria.

I need some motivation this morning.... so much to do I don't know where to start.

CurvyInAllTheWrongPlaces Sat 13-Jul-19 11:32:20

Hi all.
Has been very busy here. Last trips of the year, reports and it was our head teachers leaving party yesterday.

Em enjoy your maternity leave, your colleagues sound lovely and are very lucky to have you, and those great looking cakes 😉

Laputa, your dd sounds very brave.
One of my colleagues children is being home ed at the moment, because of anxiety. They are 14. They were told by the local authority that it will cost £1,500 for them to sit their exams now as they are out of school. I had no idea it was that expensive!

Today will not be a NSD.
I'm waiting to get my hair cut and then will be doing a bit of uniform shopping as I'm child free, I hear you wolf it is bloody expensive!

Might also treat myself to some new stationery, Typo have some lovely stuff in, I'm particularly drawn to the Harry Potter stuff.

Wolfcubisthefemalenominal Sat 13-Jul-19 12:43:16

I’ve been going back through some of my meal plans from the last 18 months looking for veggie things we already have. Posting in case they help anyone out

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