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Frugaleers Frolick Frugally through February(988 Posts)
Just setting up the new thread for the chatty Frugaleers.
By popular request - copied from an old thread
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www.topcashback.co.uk/home And this.
www.quidco.com/home/ And this
www.moneysavingexpert.com/ And this
www.checkoutsmart.com/ Plus this.
www.hotukdeals.com/all/deals/new?page=3 Check this daily.
Thank you - just what l need to catch up on & follow!
Don't forget kidstart for Amazon cash back
Thanks Ipso, I just sent you a reply in the old thread re - viruses!
ipso thanks for the new thread. If I were you I'd see how you feel after a few days - if no better go to the Gp.
Wreck I wouldn't hand your notice in until after the new employer has got your references and issued a formal written offer. As an employer we would just check no deal breakers but i have retracted offers, usually on high sickness absence that was not previously flagged /explained. As an employee, even though I had v low /no sickness and expected good references I would still wait to have a written offer before handing in my notice. If nothing else, it motivates the new employer to get the paperwork sorted because they know you have to work x weeks notice and expect that people will not resign before receiving a formal offer... so they will hold up your start date to their own detriment if they don't sort it! Once you have resigned you lose your leverage if they are just being slow... tge last thing you want is to have resigned and a month later still have no written confirmation of the new job - even if it all works out fine it would be a stress.
DS has had a couple of meltdowns today over things being wet or dirty (a few teardrops on his jeans; a smudge of paint on my hand when we were making cards). I really am getting very worried about his anxiety.
He got upset when I suggested going for a walk in the woods and I am giving the playground a swerve (half term crowds and big kids) so we've been inside all day. Waste of a lovely day really, but at least no random spends, just £95 Ocado. 9 days since last delivery so not too bad.
Re. Amazon and kidstart, I've used it quite a few times but I don't think any have tracked (though my John Lewis once have, no problem). I think the website says they don't open queries with amazon - anyone had any success with this?
Is there a clue in your username?
Christmas yes thanks it's just a virus and will go away. I'm just a bit cheesed off as I only just got rid of the last one. I've moved to a cooler room now which helps.
Sorry to hear about your ds. Poor lad sounds as though he's having a hard time. Have you looked at diet stuff? My ds is very altered by what he eats, and my dh actually. They run like a Rolls Royce on a solid cooked breakfast, but anything less will not too. In previous years I had to have ds off wheat, dairy, all added vitamins, chocolate, stuff like that. It did make life a lot calmer though.
I've been reading the Famous Five books to ds to see if I can get him interested. He's not that much taken with them, but I've got totally hooked all over again. It's fantastic to go back and enjoy the stories again having been so immersed in them as a child.
Aaaaargh lots of new posts. I use catching up as a way to avoid doing uni work though...
£4.80 on lunch in SU shop - sandwiches, bottle of coke, and a flapjack. FOUR POUND EIGHTY IN AN SU. Our SU has gone all horrid and corporate, two years ago we had "homemade" sandwiches made by student staff starting from £1, it's awful. Had to buy lunch as nothing from home to take shopping coming this evening though. And I didn't even eat my flapjack in the end so will take it to uni another day.
£6 mug for valentine present for DH.
DH bought me flowers yesterday for valentines day on his way home from work. I've nagged him loads of times cos he's never ever bought me flowers. They are a small bunch of beautiful red roses I am made up .
What are you all doing for valentines tomorrow if anything?
Seacow probably DS will get better and regulating his reactions to unpleasant sensory experiences as he gets older, but the anxiety that it produces probably won't change much if my experience is anything to go by I'm afraid. When I was little I would get in a state and cry too but now the panic is still there but I'm better able to focus on remedying it (i.e. dash to wash hands!!) and generally don't cry or shout etc. But I still have great difficulty with things like washing up, mixing food with my hands etc even if I wear gloves so DH most of the "dirty" type stuff so I don't have the stress of it thankfully.
Regards London, it's funny as DH and I are going to London but not for about two months. We have a friend who lives there so we are going to stay with him and his partner just for a weekend and go sight-seeing and things. I've only really been to London once or twice and each time was for a day trip or only stayed one night so I've been the theatre there once, and to a gig at the Roundhouse, and also went to the Natural History Museum but that's it. Any suggestions for must sees? I think one place we will go is Battersea Dogs & Cats Home though .
Finally got confirmation from one of my departments that my mitigating circumstances application for a presentation that I missed months ago has been accepted and I won't have to do it at all as they're going to create a predicated mark for it based on an average of a listening exam I will have in a few weeks and the summer term presentation, phewwww. I have also finally had contact with the company contracted by Disabled Students' Allowances about my laptop and they said as it failed the health check they asked Student Finance to approve a new one which they have done! So I will be getting a brand new laptop with my software and date all moved onto it by the company. I don't know if it will be exactly the same laptop but I guess not seeing as that was bought about 4 years ago and things change so fast with technology.
That's lovely about the flowers, Meadow. Think DD and I might make a cake and/or a card for DH tomorrow depending on how energetic I am feeling.
meadow thank you for giving your perspective. It's actually really helpful to hear the perspective of an ASD adult. I wish I had some way of identifying someone who was 'like DS' when they were 4 so I could ask them how it was growing up, and what was managed well and poorly for them. My DS is such a sweet and lovely boy, I just find it really upsetting when his anxieties get in the way of him doing things. Yesterday I had to take a book off him - it's one of those dry wipe books where he can practice writing the numbers over dotted lines and then rubbing them out. He loves numbers... but he was getting really upset every time he drew outside the lines (which was most of the time). He was in such a state and I couldn't calm him so I had to take the book away. I felt so mean because he wanted to do it. On the plus side though, I took him to a birthday party on Saturday which was pretty noisy and busy and he coped much better than i expected and even sat at the table to eat with the other children (which he's never done at a party before). I was so pleased for him and very proud
Ipso I haven't tried dietary restrictions. I think it would be worth getting him tested for allergies / sensitivities but I won't otherwise restrict his diet. He already eats a very limited range of food and it would have quite an impact to restrict it further so I will only do it on medical advice. We are overdue a paediatric review so I will raise it then.
On the subject of the great Enid Blyton, I have never stopped reading them! My favourites are the 'adventure' series
which I own and re-read every couple of years in fact I might go and do that now
Thanks Cag. I was trying to follow in your footsteps. I saw you did a real cracker a while back.
But what do I do about my boss receiving a request for a reference? Likelihood is he's going to ignore me for the end of my term, but you're right he might take ages to give the reference or something. Argh so annoying I'm going to have to tell him I've been offered a job and need a reference. Ffs.
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Thanks for the new thread. I replied and gave you flowers on the old thread Ipso, but I see you are feeling better. Good stuff.
Peonies I replied on the other thread too but I am having good results from the Aussie Colour Mate shampoos and 3 Minute Miracle conditioner. I've done expensive too, but this is pretty cheap, 3 for £10 at Boots often.
Seacow I am so sorry. I've no experience to offer. Meadow's sounds good, as she's been there and done it. I just want you to know I really and truly feel for your situation, you manage it so stalwartly and with such patience and clamness and it must be incredibly wearing.
Oh Meadow that's very good news about the laptop! Re. London, can you give us an idea of your and your DP's interests and we might be able to make good suggestions?
We don't do much for valentines day. Usually just cards and I sometimes make something special for dinner. I might make a trifle as i overbought sponges and custard at Xmas and DH loves it... might also upgrade the meal plan which currently says 'freezer dive'
Thanks ipso for the new thread
£39.95 for fuel
£6 for book for DS
meadow how old is your DS? My DS would have meltdowns about getting wet in the rain and it was so stressful taking him to school on a wet day. Thankfully it has passed. He still does not like getting wet clothes eg a splash as he is washing his hands and changes his top etc at home - no idea what he does at home. His anxiety levels are, on the whole, managed by him (he does a lot of repetitive self soothing behaviour) and by the end of a half term at school, it gets a bit out of hand.
Wreck you will have to tell him and he shouldn't be a dick about it but if he is, well, you'll be even more glad to walk out on that last day! If they want to check two references but you can give 3 people then it might be worth giving your new employers the extra contact details just in case anyone is slow. I would be a bit concerned if a candidate didn't give their current manager as a referee (in case they had something to hide) but as long as they did offer that person, I wouldn't be too fussed if we then ended up using alternative references if said manager was not very responsive.
meadow great news about your laptop, what are you studying?
I would like ideas for London too...i do find it expensive and time consuming - it takes a long time to get to events, do the event, eat, sight see, travel home, its a full day. But always worth it.
I'm away with DH on our own for 2 nights in Suffolk (drum roll) on our own - whoop whoop.
Sat having a glass of prosecco.
Fool it's me with the ASD DS. He's 4.5 and starting reception in September (that will be a mega tearful day for me!).
How old is your DS?
Need Thanks for the flowers. I think you misunderstood me in your response on the previous thread. I just have a virusy-feeling thing and was looking for a sympathetic nod. Nothing more. I'm in a cooler room now and back to normal.
NSD btw. Check me out.