Spending/saving and sadness

[FridaFrugal]

Hello there.
I'm a long time lurker on Mumsnet but have finally joined so that I can start posting in this section. This year I am determined to change my attitude to money and start being responsible and in control.
My big, big problem is that my attitude to spending and budgeting gets screwed up when I am feeling down. A few years ago I lost a really close family member (she was young) and I've also had depression in the past. I find that things that make me feel low make me have a 'fuck it' attitude to my finances. In my right mind, I can fully understand HOW to budget and stick to it, but when I feel low it all just goes out of the window for a quick-fix spend or a big food shop with no thought for planning or budgeting. But I am determined to get this area of my life in check - it is becoming something I am quite ashamed of as I get my family further into debt. I was just wondering if anyone else has similar issues with their money, and if anyone has any tips on changing the mindset?
Thanks, FF

[Notreallyhappy]

I can empathise with how you feel. I get the shopping urge when I'm 'fed up, lonely unhappy'???
Do you need to talk your loss over with a counsellor. The 'fuck it' thing might be an attempt for you to fill the void of bereavement. Some people eat, some spend your not alone.
I'd speak to my GP & ask for a referral.
You need to find coping mechanism so to move on and regain control.
X

[FridaFrugal]

Thank you for this. I'm seeing a counsellor so will talk it through. Am starting to understand just how linked mental state and spending can be, it's actually quite interesting. I'm feeling quite positive now I'm facing the issue.

[Notreallyhappy]

Good on the positive side
I had counselling previously, sticking with it you end up in a more settled place.x