Do people still wear black to a funeral?

[Alwaysrushingaround]

My uncle passed away today. Do people wear all black to both evening and day? Thanks I'm just not sure what to wear

[mumwhatnothing]

If there is no specified dress code I would wear black.

[SuperBeagle]

Not in my experience. But I also don't think many would wear a bright colour unless it was requested by the family. Plain clothes in neutral/inconspicuous colours.

[BeepBeepMOVE]

Very much so around here.

[planbatman]

I usually go with dark trousers and a top, maybe with a cardigan? Something that you can layer and are comfortable in is probably best. Thinking of you

[Alwaysrushingaround]

Thank you all.

[KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth]

Yes where I'm from anyway.
My mother recently went to a funeral in Dublin and was scandalised that "some wee upstart" was wearing a red skirt.
Last time I went to a funeral back home I wore a white blouse, black cardigan, grey skirt and black boots.

[OkPedro]

At my Mams funeral everyone was asked to wear her favourite colour. It was either a tie, scarf or in my dds case a hair clip.
My fil died recently, the children wore bright summer clothes but the adults wore black or grey clothes.

[OkPedro]

What age is your mother keira
I've not heard anyone under 50 refer to anyone as an "upstart" for a long time!

[KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth]

She's 60 but with the ways of a 90yo and not a very modern one at that.

[Ginandplatonic]

Probably regional to some extent. Here (Australia) people tend to wear plain, darkish colours rather than head-to-toe black.

[OlennasWimple]

Sorry for your loss

Unless you are told otherwise, it's safer to go with black, or at least dark colours like navy. You won't offend anyone or look out of place

(I'm loving the upstart comment - was it said with a hoiked bosom? I think that sort of thing demands the proper delivery)

[SuperBeagle]

I'm from Aus too Gin. I don't think I've been to a funeral where everyone - or even the majority - were wearing head to toe black. Must be a regional thing.

[RuggerHug]

First I'm sorry about your uncle. I've always worn black to funerals and the only one I was at where there was a lot of colour was for a friend when we were in our 20s. Most of the other 'young' crowd were all artist/musician/creative types and everyone wore their 'best' clothes if that makes sense instead? It was a bit of a giggle later when people said it was obvious I was the one with a 'real job' as one of the older adentees said because I had black formal gear and a suit coat. No one said anything bad about the bright colours on everyone else though.

[Farahilda]

Yes.

Unless there is a different dress code stipulated.

If you don't own any black though, there is no requirement to buy and you can wear any plainish clothes (lavender and grey being traditional colours of half mourning, dark navy a safe choice, but anything in a sombre shade would be fine.

[honeyrider]

Family is normally in black from head to toe, the rest of the mourners in sombre colours.

[Spudlet]

I've been to a couple this year. One was specified as casual dress, people were in everything from dress uniforms (the guy was ex-services) to jodhpurs (he was also a dedicated horseman and people obviously came direct from the yard).

The other was my MiLs which was a bit more traditional but still not black all over. I wore a grey and black suit dress, most people wore plain dark colours, but it was by no means a sea of black.

[Spudlet]

Oh sorry, I just noticed this is Craicnet! It was on active threads. I'm in England, couldn't say how formal it is or isn't in Ireland. Sorry

[Spudlet]

Also, I am sorry for your loss

[MarDhea]

I've never seen everyone all in black at an Irish funeral.

Sombre colours, yes, unless otherwise specified by the family. Women in black, grey, navy, even quite dark green or purple; trousers, skirt, dress, all fine. Men in the usual black, grey or navy suits or trousers; shirt with subdued tie, though open necked shirts are more common now. Chief mourners tend to wear fairly smart, formal clothes, but others attending the funeral are often more casual (but not scruffy). Children often wear something smart but no real expectation of special clothes, especially if they're small.

The above is more for church/burial. If there's a wake, especially at home, you do see more casual clothes and brighter colours, even on chief mourners.

[AppalazianWalzing]

Since this is craicnet I'm assuming you're in ireland, and unless you were one of the 'chief mourners' I wouldn't wear all black.

Grey, dark purple, some black: just not head to toe. It's not the norm, certainly not outside of Dublin, though it has been creeping in a bit more. In the UK I find everyone wears all black so it's a bit different.

[LivLemler]

Varies a bit by region IME. I'm from Dublin and there it's mainly respectable dress. Family in darkish colours (black, navy, grey, purple), everyone else just not too bright.

At a friend's funeral in Roscommon, there was a lot more black and also purple which I believe is the colour of mourning.

I live in NI now and there's much more black here than I'm used to - have to remind myself every time to dress more somberly than I would at home.

[twinjocks]

I always wear black to funerals (but then I mostly do every day anyway!) - I think it's respectful, but I'm from a NI tradition where everyone would wear black. In Dublin, it seems to be less clearcut - I've even seen people wearing jeans, tracksuits etc. OP, you can't go wrong by wearing a smart black (or dark) outfit.

[Alwaysrushingaround]

Thanks for all the helpful replies- bowler black the first evening and navy the second day. Thanks again.

[Alwaysrushingaround]

*i wore not bowler!

[TriJo]

Dark muted colours at least. For my grandfather's funeral I wore a black 50s style dress as a nod to the fact he loved the music from that period.