Support thread for those of us who are on our own without bubbles

[Llmmnn]

I thought I’d start a thread for those of us on our own. With no support bubbles.

My dd goes back to uni on Wednesday (can’t study at home is a course she has to be there for) and I can’t bubble with my other children as they have partners. My boyfriend/OH and I can’t bubble either.

It was long and lonely the last time and I thought a thread would be nice

[Bromeliads]

I know this isn't quite the point of your thread, but don't you count as a single adult now and can bubble with another household of any size?

[iVampire]

Yay - thread for those of us without support bubbles gets first response telling OP to make a bubble.

Yes, it’s so supportive here on MN

Llmmnn I’ve just got used to not seeing my friends in RL - I did a bit over the summer and once in a blue moon meet one friend for a walk. Titting round online, messaging and ringing/video calling people keeps me connected, as does writing actual pen and paper letters. I’ve found that people really like getting them

[Bromeliads]

Yay - thread for those of us without support bubbles gets first response telling OP to make a bubble.

Sorry, it was a genuine question .

[Llmmnn]

@Bromeliads

I know this isn't quite the point of your thread, but don't you count as a single adult now and can bubble with another household of any size?

Who do I bubble with?

I can’t bubble with child 1 as he is hundreds of miles away.

Child 2 is a front line worker (nhs) living with their partner and not seeing anyone.

Child 3 is 55 miles away.

And the baby is back to uni this week.

(Had another child who died young)

All my friends are bubbled with their parents.

My remaining parent is in a care home and I am not allowed to visit.

Who exactly do I bubble with ?


It’s kinda offensive for that to be the first post on a supportive thread. Don’t you think I’ve thought of everyone?

[User1055]

I'm in the same boat. And in answer to the second poster, all my local friends that I could bubble with have children, grandchildren or elderly relatives they need to bubble with, and that takes priority.

[Llmmnn]

@iVampire

Yay - thread for those of us without support bubbles gets first response telling OP to make a bubble.

Yes, it’s so supportive here on MN

Llmmnn I’ve just got used to not seeing my friends in RL - I did a bit over the summer and once in a blue moon meet one friend for a walk. Titting round online, messaging and ringing/video calling people keeps me connected, as does writing actual pen and paper letters. I’ve found that people really like getting them

Thanks ivampire.

It’s really pissed me off. I’m not thick. I just don’t have anyone to bubble with (other than DD and she’s away off to uni soon)

I haven’t thought to send actual letters - that’s a good shout, I’ll do that.

[Llmmnn]

@User1055

I'm in the same boat. And in answer to the second poster, all my local friends that I could bubble with have children, grandchildren or elderly relatives they need to bubble with, and that takes priority.

Same

[Bromeliads]

Like I said, sorry. You said you couldn't bubble with them as they had partners, but you can bubble with someone who has a partner. That's all. It took my mum four months to realise that she could bubble with us, but it doesn't matter really because she won't see us anyway.

[Beebyonthewold]

I’m in the same position OP. And like others, I don’t have anyone local that I can bubble with- any friends or family are either miles away or understandably already in bubbles with parents/grandparents. I’ve had others express astonishment that I’m not in a local bubble- i would love that, but it’s really not possible!

Anyway, thanks for the thread. It is very, very tough and I think single people living alone are often forgotten about in this situation.

[Llmmnn]

@Bromeliads

Like I said, sorry. You said you couldn't bubble with them as they had partners, but you can bubble with someone who has a partner. That's all. It took my mum four months to realise that she could bubble with us, but it doesn't matter really because she won't see us anyway.

My no 3 has bubbled with his gf because they don’t live together.

No 1 is a flight away. How exactly do you propose I bubble with them?

No2 is an nhs doc working on a Covid ward and they don’t want to bubble with anyone.

My other child died when young.

My youngest is off to uni on Wednesday.

My best friend is bubbled with her v elderly mum.

My dad is in a care home.

My other friend is bubbled with her parents for child care.




Do you honestly think I haven’t thought of all this?

[Bromeliads]

Plus, I am here. I can see what you're writing about me. I'm sorry if I sounded insensitive, and I can see how it was and I've apologised (three times now), but if you want to talk about how supportive Mumsnet is, a gentle, "Bromeliads, I have checked, I'm not an idiot" would have been kinder than bitching about what a cow I am.
You don't have to keep explaining it.

[Jellycatspyjamas]

Yep, no bubble here, I have a DH and two kids, DH works out of the house and I work from home. I’ve not seen anyone I don’t live with since November, feeling pretty isolated. All my family live a distance away and my friends have family they need to bubble with. And of course it means I have no help with the kids either.

[Llmmnn]

My partner is in the forces and lives in the mess and is all over the place. I can’t bubble with them because we don’t live together and they have a child who is A level year but now over 18 who they see every other weekend.

Honest to god what an offensive post on a supportive thread.

[Bromeliads]

I AM FUCKING SORRY.

[Llmmnn]

@Bromeliads

Plus, I am here. I can see what you're writing about me. I'm sorry if I sounded insensitive, and I can see how it was and I've apologised (three times now), but if you want to talk about how supportive Mumsnet is, a gentle, "Bromeliads, I have checked, I'm not an idiot" would have been kinder than bitching about what a cow I am.
You don't have to keep explaining it.

I said I couldn’t bubble with anyone. You clearly didn’t believe me.

You could have just stayed off the thread?

[Bromeliads]

I didn't not believe you!

[Bromeliads]

Anyway, I'll leave you to it. For the fifth time, I am sorry to have caused offence. I have ASD and your explanation didn't make sense so I queried it. Your subsequent explanations make total sense and I understand now, but I see that it wasn't sensitive to ask the question. I looked at the thread because I am also lonely. Sorry.

[Llmmnn]

@Bromeliads

I know this isn't quite the point of your thread, but don't you count as a single adult now and can bubble with another household of any size?

That’s an “I don’t believe you”.


Anyway, the suggestion of a letter is a great one. I think my aunt would love that.

I also crochet and I’m doing a friend a blanket.

[BearandaSpare]

To get back on topic I'm in a similar position and yes it sucks 🙁